Stop Giving Your Power Away: Conscious Love in Real Life with Christian De La Huerta

Episode Summary 

We’re taught to chase the feeling of love, then panic when the feeling fades. In this wide-open conversation, Christian de la Huerta—spiritual teacher, TEDx speaker, and author of Conscious Love—draws a clean line between worldly (ego) power and soulful (inner) power, and why confusing the two makes us abandon ourselves in relationships. We unpack how early conditioning around power and emotions trains us to say “yes” when our body is screaming “no,” why men are taught to suppress feelings (and pay for it in mental and physical health), and the hard truth that love is an act, not a feeling—especially when the honeymoon ends.

Christian shares the personal journey from adolescent depression and religious conflict to an unshakeable sense of self, plus practical ways to stop playing small: name what you want, set clear boundaries, and learn to feel and communicate emotions responsibly. If you’ve ever floated through life on autopilot or handed your power to circumstance, this episode is your nudge to become the author of your own story—on purpose.

Show Notes & Chapters

• [00:00] Cold open: “Love is the act, not the feeling”—and why the real work starts after the honeymoon.

• [02:00] From depression and self-loathing to an unshakeable sense of self.

• [03:30] Power isn’t the problem—our confusion is (worldly vs. soulful power).

• [06:00] How we give our power away: saying yes when it’s a no; settling for crumbs.

• [09:00] Faith, identity, and the existential questions that won’t be outrun.

• [12:00] Everyday examples of power leaks in work and love—and how patterns form.

• [15:00] Fear of being hurt → sabotaging relationships before they start.

• [20:00] Boundaries without bravado: expressing truth calmly and clearly.

• [30:00] Women’s empowerment, men’s crisis, and redefining “provider.”

• [35:00] Emotions aren’t weakness: feel → express responsibly → return to center.

• [38:00] Ten relationship challenges and why “completion” thinking breaks love.

• [42:30] The Scott Peck reframe: love as action; spiritual growth over comfort.

Resources Mentioned

• Book: Conscious Love: Transforming Our Relationship to Relationships — Christian de la Huerta.

• Website: Soul Healing & Self Discovery | Soulful Power (programs, books, contact).