The Wobble is the Work: A Reckoning with Harm, Heartbreak, and Holding Your Ground

2025-06-15

What if being unshakable isn’t about getting it right, but staying open when everything in you wants to shut down? This conversation is a raw reckoning with harm, heartbreak, and the tender moments where growth meets grief. Seryna walks us through the pain of knowing your truth landed hard on someone else, and the courage it takes to keep showing up anyway. This is about the messy middle. The wobble. The moments that ask you to hold your humanity with both hands and lead yourself back to center, without bypassing what’s real. This Episode Is Perfect For You If... You’re naviga...

This is about the messy middle. The wobble. The moments that ask you to hold your humanity with both hands and lead yourself back to center, without bypassing what’s real.

This Episode Is Perfect For You If...

You’re navigating a rupture and wondering how to stay in your truth without causing more harm
You’re doing the work to unlearn perfectionism in how you show up and lead
You’ve been carrying guilt or shame about a conversation that didn’t go how you hoped
You want to practice accountability and self-compassion at the same time
You’re ready to embrace emotional discomfort as part of your healing and radical authenticity journey

"My truth hurts people. And from 10 years old until my mid to late 30s, it meant I swallowed a lot."

In This Episode

(01:50) – What it looks like to speak your truth and hurt someone in the process

(05:45) – Unpacking harm, identity, and the challenge of being misunderstood

(09:20) – The survival self, public accountability, and the desire to be perfect

(14:30) – The cost of silence, the ripple of unintentional harm, and the need to witness others' pain

(21:10) – Therapy sessions, dual perspectives, and the messy middle of growth

(27:15) – A childhood memory that shaped the fear of telling the truth

(34:05) – What it means to hold yourself with compassion while still owning your impact

(39:20) – Closing prayer and a reminder to stay human, awake, and open

"Feeling the fear, doing it anyway. Feeling the shame, doing it anyway. And doing it with an undefended heart."

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