Kids & Family
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When dealing with frustrating situations where our kids misbehave, it can be easy to become emotionally engaged and default to yelling, annoyance, or anger. When we respond that way, it only makes the situation worse and often creates additional problems.
Wouldn’t you like something that would keep you from becoming engaged in that way? What if we told you a simple skill could help?
The skill of Observe and Describe is something that you can do today. Instead of engaging in your child’s negative behavior, you observe what is happening and calmly state what you see without judgment. For example, if your child is rolling their eyes and making faces at you, you would say, “You are rolling your eyes and making faces at me.” When you state just the facts, it allows your child to understand what they are doing. It also keeps you from getting emotional.
Remaining calm allows you to lead the dance instead of reacting to the situation. How powerful is that? Powerful. By changing how we respond to situations, we change the outcome and improve our relationships.
We teach our kids that there is a better way to respond that doesn’t have to be driven by emotions.
Observe and Describe can be used on everybody we have interactions with.
You can find the skill on the Smarter Parenting website. https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/observe-and-describe/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
Ep #106: When parents aren't on the same page
Ep #105: Helping kids who struggle with correction
Ep #104: Investing in your child and your relationship
Ep #103: Creating a foundation for success with Following Instructions
Ep #102: Helping kids stay focused and on task
Ep #101: Teaching your kid to function without you
Ep #100: How to give consequences that work
Ep #99: Creating connection with your child
Ep #98: Helping kids go back to school
Ep #97: Feeling hopeful for the future
Ep #96: Strengthening emotional connections with your child
Ep #95:Why video games are so addictive and what parents can do
Ep #94: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 2
Ep #93: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 1
Ep #92: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 2
Ep #91: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 1
Ep #90: Dealing with frustrating situations: Part 2
Ep #89: Special episode-Helping your kids navigate what is happening in the world
Ep #87: Understanding what causes tantrums
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