EP: 242 Internalized Wrongness – When You Mistake Your Identity for a Flaw

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Something about me is just… wrong”?

In this episode, I’m getting real about internalized wrongness — that quiet, exhausting belief that your identity is a defect to fix instead of something to celebrate. I’ve lived this, and I know how sneaky it is. From code-switching until you don’t recognize your own voice, to chasing every receipt and title just to feel “enough,” it’s a cycle that drains your energy, creativity, and self-trust.

We’ll talk about how this shows up in our daily lives, why overachieving can be a mask for internalized wrongness, and the exact process I use to help Black women reset their nervous systems so authenticity feels safe again. I’ll share a client story, practical steps you can start today, and the one truth that changes everything: you were never the problem — you are the blueprint.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to recognize the signs of internalized wrongness

• Why over-preparing and over-performing never bring self-trust

• The “safety scripts” that keep you editing yourself to fit in

• Small, low-risk experiments to prove to your body it’s safe to be you

• How to start stacking evidence for your worth and identity

If you’ve been shrinking, editing, or collecting receipts just to feel worthy, it’s time to reset.

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