Podbean logo
  • Discover
  • Podcast Features

    Your all-in-one podcasting solution.

    Podcast Studio

    Easy-to-use audio recorder app.

  • Livestream

    High-performing audio live, without limits.

  • Podcast App

    The best podcast player & podcast app.

  • Ads Marketplace

    Join Ads Marketplace to earn money
    through sponsorship on your podcast.

    PodAds

    Manage your ads with dynamic ad insertion capability.

  • Patron & Paid Content

    The seamless way for fans to support you directly
    from your podcast.

  •  
  • All Arts Business Comedy Education
  • Fiction Government Health & Fitness History Kids & Family
  • Leisure Music News Religion & Spirituality Science
  • Society & Culture Sports Technology True Crime TV & Film
  • Live
  • How to Start a Podcast
  • How to Start a Live Podcast
  • How to Monetize a podcast
  • How to Promote Your Podcast
  • How to Use Group Recording
  • Log in
  • Start your podcast for free
  • Podcasting
    • Podcast Features
    • Live Stream
    • PodAds
    • Podcast App
    • Podcast Studio
  • Monetization
    • Premium
    • Patron
    • Ads Marketplace
  • Enterprise
  • Pricing
  • Discover
  • Log in
    Sign up free
Love University with Dr. Alexander Avila

Love University with Dr. Alexander Avila

Society & Culture

SECRETS OF LASTING PASSION AND LOVE, WITH SPECIAL GUEST, DR. PAULETTE SHERMAN: LOVE PSYCHOLOGIST EXTRAORDINAIRE

SECRETS OF LASTING PASSION AND LOVE, WITH SPECIAL GUEST, DR. PAULETTE SHERMAN: LOVE PSYCHOLOGIST EXTRAORDINAIRE

2020-03-17
iOS Android Share
On Love University, we had the pleasure of talking to our good friend, Dr. Paulette Sherman, Love Psychologist Extraordinaire. In these times of uncertainty and turmoil, we all need more loving...

On Love University, we had the pleasure of talking to our good friend, Dr. Paulette Sherman, Love Psychologist Extraordinaire. In these times of uncertainty and turmoil, we all need more loving relationships as a buffer against uncertain, fear, and doubt. Dr. Paulette has written 22 books on love and relationships, and had these words of wisdom on how to have great love and passion in our relationships:


*Marry Yourself First: When choosing a mate, make sure you are certain about your must-haves (and deal-breakers) before you let yourself fall for the chemical attraction to a person. If they don’t have what you need, it may be time to look elsewhere. What is your must list? Does your ideal partner need to be gentle, kind, and caring, or do you prefer someone who is smart, powerful, and committed? Nobody has every single personality quality, and your partner doesn’t need to be perfect, but you want someone who can match you in your deepest values, preferences, and lifestyle choices (i.e. your LoveType—your compatible personality style).

 

*Be Authentic: Some dating programs suggest that you play hard to get and hide your true feelings about the person—some research indicates that doing so may make you more attractive to others. However, this approach also creates a mask of insincerity that later comes off, potentially leading to hurt feelings and thoughts of being manipulated. On the other hand, being too vulnerable and open in the beginning can be a turn-off because you may come across as too needy. The best approach is to choose a middle ground—be authentic and honest about your interests and feelings, yet wait until you have an established relationship until you completely open yourself up emotionally.

 

*Pay Attention to What Your Partner Likes: You don’t have to like everything your partner enjoys; they may love football, while you love opera. But, it’s important to acknowledge their interest and passions even though you don’t share them. Although you know very little (and don’t care much) for the topic, you may ask “How was the opera (ball game)?” No, you are not being insincere or feigning interest in what they like. Instead, you are paying attention to your partner’s feelings about what they like—and giving them validation for being your unique partner who has their own interests, which makes them a more well-rounded and interesting person.

 

*Make Your Date Night Sacred:   According to Dr. Paulette, research shows that couples who have a weekly date night have two to three times better sex and tend to divorce three times less often. Whether you are married, living together, or have been partnered for a long time, it’s important that you renew your love and connection by spending special time together. As of this writing, people are staying home because of the Coronavirus, but you can still have your special time. One reenergizing activity you can do at home is the sacred bath. While in the bathtub together for 20-30 minutes, you and your partner can relax as you lie in detoxifying bath salt and enjoy beautiful scents. You can center your minds around a positive intention of togetherness as you bring higher energy to your relationship: combining romance, intimacy, relaxation and spirituality into your time together.


What a wonderful relief and comfort it is to have a great love relationship in times of strife and trouble, as well as in good times to celebrate milestones and mutual accomplishments. The secrets of lasting love are as simple as loving yourself, putting yourself in the shoes of your partner (empathy), and extending loving energy without expectation to your mate.

 

And, of course, working on your relationship is very important. Think about it: You may work out several hours a week on your body, 40 hours or more on your job, but how many hours do you actually work on your relationship: talking, doing fun things together, expressing “I love you’s,” and engaging in sexual intimacy, romantic gestures and affection? The secret is that the more you invest in your love relationship, the more benefits you will receive. Your relationship can become like a never-ending gold mine that keeps bringing you treasure daily: love, happiness, and fulfillment.

view more

More Episodes

HOW TO HAVE GREAT FRIENDS: WITH SPECIAL GUEST, CAT MOORE, USC DIRECTOR OF BELONGING

2023-05-25 24

”I’M NOT BROKEN”: THE MIRACULOUS TRUE STORY OF JESSE LEON: FROM SEXUALLY TRAFFICKED, DRUG ADDICTED, HOMELESS, BARRIO CHILD TO HARVARD GRADUATE AND BILLION DOLLAR SOCIAL IMPACT CONSULTANT

2023-05-05 53

LOVE, LIES, AND LAMENTS: THE AMAZING TRANSFORMATIONAL STORY OF RAPPER AND PRODUCER DANIEL, 3D PEREZ

2023-04-15 44

LIVE THE EXTRAORDINARY LIFE: ACHIEVE YOUR WILDEST DREAMS

2023-03-30 56

GETTING YOUR SECOND WIND: HOW TO TRANSCEND YOUR LIMITS AND DO THE IMPOSSIBLE

2023-03-23 52

LOVE YOUR WORK, LOVE YOUR LIFE: HOW TO MAKE YOUR LIFE AN ABSOLUTE JOY

2023-03-16 58

ANGER THOUGHT DEMON: MASTERING THE PUPPET MASTER OF FURY

2023-03-09 60

Watermelon Hunter in the Land of Fools: Parable for a Worry-Free Life

2023-03-01 44

Compulsion Thought Demon: How to Overcome the Never-Ending Chase for Nothing

2023-02-24 50

FEAR THOUGHT DEMON: HOW TO QUIET THE MONKEY MIND OF TREPIDATION

2023-02-14 39

FIND YOUR SOUL MATE AT THE MYSTERY DATING MASQUERADE: JOIN US ON FEB 10TH FOR A MAGICAL VALENTINE’S EVENT OF FUN, MYSTERY, AND LOVE

2023-02-05 60

FUTILITY THOUGHT DEMON: HOW LOW CAN YOU GO AND HOW HIGH CAN YOU SOAR: SECRETS OF SELF-LOVE

2023-02-02 42

THE BAD ME THOUGHT DEMON: HOW TO VANQUISH THE RELENTLESS MENTAL ATTACK ON YOUR SELF

2023-01-25 43

SILENCE YOUR THOUGHT DEMONS: VANQUISH YOUR CRITICAL INNER VOICES AND LIVE WITH PASSION, PURPOSE, AND POWER

2023-01-19 57

MEET YOUR HIGHER NATURE: A QUICK LESSON IN ACCESSING THE ULTIMATE POWER OF THE UNIVERSE

2023-01-07 61

NEW YEAR SPECIAL, FROM SHY NERD TO CONFIDENT LADIES MAN, PART TWO: WE WELCOME BACK REGGIE, OUR BELOVED LOVE UNIVERSITY PRODUCER, AND HEAR MORE ABOUT HIS AMAZING TRANSFORMATIONAL STORY

2022-12-20 78

LOVE WARRIOR, PART TWO: HOW TO BE INTELLIGENTLY SELFLESS AND RULE YOUR WORLD

2022-12-09 67

LOVE WARRIOR, PART ONE: HOW TO COMBINE GENTLENESS WITH STRENGTH AND PEACE WITH POWER

2022-12-01 61

DO THE IMPOSSIBLE: BE A FULL POTENTIAL PERSON AND ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS

2022-11-25 60

CHARISMA POWER: UNLOCK YOUR HIDDEN POTENTIAL TO SHINE IN ANY SOCIAL SITUATION

2022-11-17 71
  • ←
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 6
  • 7
  • 8
  • 9
  • 10
  • →
012345678910111213141516171819

Get this podcast on your
phone, FREE

Download Podbean app on App Store Download Podbean app on Google Play

You may also like

PINK BIBLE: SCRIPTS FROM A MODERN DAY GYPSY*

PINK BIBLE: SCRIPTS FROM A MODERN DAY GYPSY*

68 170
The Legal Lounge from LBLaw.co.uk

The Legal Lounge from LBLaw.co.uk

323 13.1k
The Lowdown with Bravemumma

The Lowdown with Bravemumma

576 21.1k
Every L Podcast

Every L Podcast

173 4.6k
Stuff You Should Know

Stuff You Should Know

413.6k 5.2m
Timcast IRL

Timcast IRL

97.5k 521.8k
  • Podcast Services

    • Podcast Features
    • Pricing
    • Enterprise Solution
    • Private Podcast
    • The Podcast App
    • Live Stream
    • Audio Recorder
    • Remote Recording
  •  
    • Create a Podcast
    • Video Podcast
    • Start Podcasting
    • Start Radio Talk Show
    • Education Podcast
    • Church Podcast
    • Nonprofit Podcast
    • Get Sermons Online
    • Free Audiobooks
  • MONETIZATION & MORE

    • Podcast Advertising
    • Dynamic Ads Insertion
    • Patron Program
    • Affiliate Program
    • Switch to Podbean
    • Submit Your Podcast
    • Podbean Plugins
    • Developers
    • Badges
  • KNOWLEDGE BASE

    • How to Start a Podcast
    • How to Start a Live Podcast
    • How to Monetize a podcast
    • How to Promote Your Podcast
    • How to Use Group Recording
  • Support

    • Support Center
    • Podbean Blog
    • What’s New
    • Free Webinars
    • Podcast Events
    • Podbean Academy
    • Podcasting Smarter
    • Resources
  • Podbean

    • About Us
    • Careers
    • Press and Media
    • Green Initiative
    • Contact Us
  • Privacy Policy
  • Cookie Policy
  • Terms of Use
  • Consent Preferences
  • Do Not Sell or Share My Personal information
  • Copyright © 2006-2023 Podbean.com