Only the Hungry Change: From Frustration to Real Transformation, Why willpower isn’t enough, and how hungry leaders actually change their lives.

If you feel frustrated, disappointed, or stuck right now, you’re not broken – you’re human. The real question isn’t “What’s wrong with me?” It’s “What needs to change, and how do I actually change it?”

In this solo episode, Alan unpacks a simple but powerful idea: only the hungry change. You can’t force your kids to change, your team to change, or your friends to change. You can barely force yourself to change. But when hunger meets a clear process, transformation becomes possible.

Alan walks through a practical framework he calls the Wheel of Transformation – moving from new awareness, to new actions, to new rhythms. He shares personal stories about getting called out on weak hamstrings, losing steam on his goals, and how small, consistent steps have led to real change over time.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve tried to fix the same thing a hundred times and you’re still stuck, this episode will give you language, hope, and a concrete path forward.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why frustration and disappointment are usually gaps in expectation, not signs that you’re failing

• What it means that “only the hungry change” – and how to honestly assess your own hunger

• How new awareness (internal or external feedback) is the first step toward real change

• Why information alone is not enough – and what has to come after clarity

• How to move from awareness to new actions through courage and small next right steps

• Why the real transformation happens when new actions become new rhythms

• Where most leaders stumble: trying to change without community, accountability, or a clear process

• How coaching, tools, and simple calendars can help you build consistency instead of chasing quick fixes

Key ideas and phrases

• “Only the hungry change. Hunger is the currency of change.”

• “Information isn’t bad. It’s just not enough.”

• “New awareness → new actions → new rhythms.”

• “Great leaders aren’t the ones who take one big step; they’re the ones who keep taking their next right step.”

Resources and next steps

• Wheel of Transformation Tool
  Want a simple visual tool to help you walk through this process? Request the Wheel of Transformation and we’ll send it to you.
  → Visit h2leadership.com and use the contact form to ask for the Wheel of Transformation tool.

• Breakthrough Coaching Session
  If you feel stuck in one area of life or leadership and need clarity on your next right step, you can request a free 30-minute breakthrough coaching session with our team.
  → Learn more and reach out at www.h2leadership.com.