Lessons in Leadership & Parenting with 4-Star Gen. Michael Minihan

2026-02-09

#39: Retired 4-Star Gen. Michael Minihan joins The Frequency Effect (sponsored by Soaak Technologies) in Tulsa, Oklahoma for a powerful, personal conversation on leadership, parenting, and resilience. From growing up in a multi-generation military family to moving 11 times and navigating four different high schools, Gen. Minihan shares what “military brat” life teaches about adaptability, durability, and showing up with character. This episode is a masterclass in standards without shame: how parents can lead by example, coach with love, hold the lin...

This episode is a masterclass in standards without shame: how parents can lead by example, coach with love, hold the line on accountability, and still cultivate joy and confidence in their kids. You’ll also hear the pivotal turning point from his Auburn freshman year, the wake-up call that changed everything, and the role grace played when leaders chose to bet on him.

Subscribe for the next conversation, where we go deeper into Gen. Minihan’s march toward becoming a four-star general and his perspectives on leadership in today’s world. Drop your questions and comments below.

00:00 Introduction

01:24 Welcome to The Frequency Effect (Soaak Technologies)

02:48 Meet 4-Star Gen. Michael Minihan in Tulsa

04:12 Growing Up in a Military Family

05:36 Moving 11 Times and Four High Schools

07:00 The “Military Brat” Skill Set: Resilience and Adaptability

08:24 First Days, New Cafeterias, and Constant Transitions

09:48 Parenting as Coaching: Firm, Fair, and Loving

11:12 Leading by Example (Not Threats)

12:36 High Standards, Accountability, and Work Ethic

14:00 First Cars and Getting Pulled Over

15:24 The Discipline of Details (Mowing, Edges, Excellence)