How to Parent Peacefully. With the Hand in Hand Parenting approach.

#068 Parenting from afar - how to stay connected when you are away from your child

This week’s topic is prompted from a question in my Facebook group about parenting from afar. This parent is working away for 3 weeks and wants to know how to help her child with the separation. Separations do affect children, but there is so much we can do to support them with separation - whether it's dropping your child to school or daycare every day or longer separations when you are away for days or weeks. ​ In this episode, I talk about how we can help children with separation before, during and after we are away from them. I talk a lot about meeting children in their world of play to support them with the feelings of separation and also using play to stay connected to them while you are away. I also talk about validating your child's experience if they are struggling with some big feelings around separation. If you would like to learn more about dealing with tantrums and meltdowns in a way that builds emotional resilience, then come along to my free class this Monday 15th May at 8pm UK time. It takes place over on my Facebook group Peacefully Parenting Under 8s. If you are ready to put these ideas into practice in your own parenting, come and work with me over in the Peaceful Parent School.  Click here to find out more and book your place.If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents.I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#067 When is a consequence actually a threat? And how to swap consequences for connection

The podcast is back!Today I’m asking when is a consequence actually a punishment? And how can I swap consequences for connection and still get my kids to bed on time??!This episode was inspired by a parent who asked me about her child who was reluctant to get ready for bed. “If you don’t put on your pyjamas we won’t have time to read your bedtime story” Is this a consequence or a punishment? Listen in to find out.  In this episode, I discuss the fine line between consequences and punishments.I ask the question of whether or not taking away a story at bedtime is a consequence or a punishment.I explain that the key question to ask yourself is what is your agenda? If you are using the threat of losing a story as leverage to make your child do what you want, then it is a punishment.However, if it is genuinely not possible to read the story due to time constraints, then it is a natural consequence.I also discuss how it is important to be honest with yourself and to not use this as a way to manipulate or control your child's behaviour.Timestamps:00:03:45 Set realistic expectations.00:06:25 Connect with your child through fun.00:11:10 Boost connection before bed. Come and work with me over in the Peaceful Parent School.  Click here to find out more and book your place.If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents.I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#066 Your parent questions answered Part 2: sibling rivalry, consent, chores and more

Welcome back to Part 2 of my parent q&a. In this episode I answer even more of your parenting questions from sibling rivalry, to teaching consent to helping children with aggression and much more. The first question is about sibling rivalry and how you can set the foundations of a great sibling relationship between your children. For more on sibling rivalry check our Episode 6 of the podcast #006 Sibling Rivalry - 5 steps to building a strong sibling relationship. Next I answer a question about why some children simply won’t listen and how we can build cooperation without using threats and other fear-based strategies. This is a huge topic which I talk about in-depth in my free one hour Masterclass - why your kids won’t listen and what you can do about it. You can get the replay here. Next I talk about hitting and kicking and how you can support your child to offload the feelings that are driving that behaviour. You may also want to check out Episode 20 #020 Why kids hit, bite, pinch or kick and what to do about it Then I talk about how to get your children to help out with chores - much more on this in Episode 13 of the podcast #013 Chores: how to raise helpful, considerate children who *want* to help out The next question is about one of my favourite topics - how do we teach about consent to our children. Here is a full podcast on that topic #037 Teaching our children about consent and bodily autonomy and here is a blog article I wrote about consent and bodily autonomy. Finally I answer a question about helping children with disappointment. These are they types of questions I support parents with all the time over in my Peaceful Parent School. Click here to find out more and book your place. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.

#065 Your parent questions answered: sleepovers, school conflict, children and death

Welcome to Episode 65 of the podcast where I answer questions from parents in my free Facebook Group: Peacefully Parenting Under 8s. First up we have a question about how to navigate sleepovers safely and with confidence. Then I answer a question about dealing with a school where teachers are shouting at children - how can you advocate for your child whilst modelling a gentle and respectful approach. Next I talk about supporting our kids with death and grief and other people’s reactions to that. You might also want to check out Episode #046 Supporting our children to cope with grief, death and dying. That's all I had time for in Part 1 but you can join me in Part 2 where I answer more parenting questions on consent, getting your strong-willed child to listen, encouraging children to do chores and sibling rivalry. If you would love to learn how to bring these ideas into your parenting to making a lasting shift in your child's behaviour and your relationship with them, then doors are open to my Peaceful Parent School. Click here to find out more and book your place. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners. ​

#064 Calm the Chaos in Six Simple Steps

This week I share with you my six simple steps to help you stay calm in the chaos. This is a recording of a live workshop I delivered online last week. I share my six step RETURN process and lots of practical strategies you can put into place straight away to support you on your journey to becoming a peaceful parent. I also share some big perspective shifts that I have learned along the way on my own journey to give up yelling and live out my values of respect and kindness in my parenting. I share all of this with you and I mention my new course The Shouting Solution. Learn more about it here. Here’s what you will learn in this week's episode : 🔥 What is really going on when you lose control and shout at your kids 🔥 Why willpower alone is not enough to stop you from yelling, no matter how hard you try 🔥 Practical strategies to help you stay calm in the moment 🔥 Why you’re are only 6 steps away from creating a peaceful home free from yelling I take you through my practical strategies for staying calm in the moment so you don’t end up shouting at your kids and I will show you my 6-step process for saying goodbye to yelling for good so you can start having fun with your kids again. The reason you are struggling to stay calm in the moment isn’t a lack of willpower. It isn’t because you don’t love your kids or you’re not trying hard enough. It is simply because you need some new skills to manage your emotions - skills that you can learn. You can learn how to manage your emotions before they take you over (and teach your kids how to do it too in the process - nice side effect of doing your own inner work). It can be tricky at the start to put these practices into place (when you can barely keep your head above water). So I am here to throw you a lifeline and support you on your journey to finding your inner calm and your deep well of patience. It is in there. Let me guide you.. Join the Shouting Solution today. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents. I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.