The Psychology of Relationships

The Science of Lasting Happiness (Inside & Outside Of Relationships) w/ Dr. Laurie Santos

We often assume that love, marriage, or having children is the key to happiness—but research tells a more complicated story. In this episode, Julie & Yue are talking with Dr. Laurie Santos, Yale professor, psychologist, and host of The Happiness Lab, to explore the science of well-being and how that relates to our relationships with others. Drawing on decades of research, Dr. Santos explains how to feel fulfilled in love without relying on someone else to make you happy, ways to shift your focus from external achievements to internal well-being, and why relationships, while important, are only part of what creates lasting joy. In this episode, you’ll learn:• What The Arrival Fallacy Is And Why Achieving Goals Often Fails To Boost Happiness• How The U-Shaped Happiness Curve Explains Satisfaction Across Life Stages• Why Social Connection Alone Isn't Enough For Fulfillment• Research-backed Habits To Increase Personal Happiness And Emotional Resilience• How Prioritizing Your Own Well-Being Improves Dating, Relationships, and ConnectionTo learn more about Dr. Laurie Santos, follow her @lauriesantos and visit https://www.thehappinesslab.comWant to feel more connected to your partner? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/PORSHOWAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The Truth About Relationships: What’s Confusing, Frustrating, and Totally Normal w/ Todd Baratz

Love is supposed to feel good—so why does it so often feel confusing, activating, and emotionally exhausting? Even in the healthiest relationships, we can feel anxious, irritated, or like we’re “losing our mind,” which often leads to the quiet panic of wondering whether something is wrong with us or the relationship itself. Julie and Yue sit down with Todd Baratz, therapist and author of ‘How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind’ for a raw, unfiltered look at why love brings out our deepest insecurities, needs, and patterns. Todd breaks down why losing your mind in relationships is normal, how cognitive biases distort the way we evaluate partners, and why frustration doesn’t automatically mean you’re with the wrong person. In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why Even Healthy Relationships Activate Anxiety, Doubt, and Emotional Intensity• How Cognitive Biases Shape The Way You Judge Your Partner And Your Relationships• What Frustration in Love Is Really Signaling (And What It's Not)• Why 'Should I Stay or Should I Go?' Keeps People Stuck• The Question That Actually Leads to Clarity, Self-Trust, and Relational GrowthTo learn more about Todd, visit toddbaratz.com and follow him on Instagram @yourdiagnonsenseWant to feel more connected to your partner? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/PORSHOWAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Finding Love at Any Age: Why It’s Never Too Late to Build the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted w/ May Lee

What if it’s not too late for love and your timeline isn’t behind but rather right on time? In this episode, Julie and Yue sit down with former CNN journalist, and newly engaged May Lee to flip the cultural myth that love has an expiration date. At 57, May got engaged for the first time, proving that societal timelines are often more limiting than reality. Drawing from her own journey and the psychology of chrono-normativity—the idea that society imposes “proper timelines” for adulthood milestones—May shows how letting go of the artificial countdown clock can open space for clarity, agency, and authentic connection.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why “It’s Too Late for Love” Is a Cultural Myth• How Chrono-Normativity Shapes Pressure and Dating Decisions• How Letting Go of Timelines Boosts Confidence and Self-Worth• Why Future-Positive Thinking Increases Attraction and Relational Satisfaction• How Past Detours Can Create Conditions for the Right Relationship• How to Choose Partners Based on Fit, Not Deadlines• Why Age Doesn’t Limit Love—but Outdated Timelines DoTo learn more about May Lee: follow @mayleeshow and visit https://www.lotusmediahouse.comWant to feel more connected to your partner? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/PORSHOWAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What Healthy Couples Need To Understand About Money In Order To Build Their Rich Life w/ Ramit Sethi

Money has a way of sneaking into every corner of a relationship—date nights, living arrangements, future plans, even how we argue or apologize. And yet, it’s one of the conversations couples avoid the most. In this episode, Julie and Yue chat with Netflix host, bestselling author, and creator of Money For Couples, Ramit Sethi, to unpack the psychology behind financial tension that inevitably creeps into relationships. Ramit explains why money arguments aren’t really about money—they’re about values, fears, power dynamics, and the stories we carry about security, freedom, and worth.In this episode, you’ll learn: • The Four Money Types and How They Influence Relationships • How Different Earning Styles and Financial Habits Shape Dynamics • Why Money Fights Are Often About Emotion, Not Numbers • How to Communicate About Money Without Triggering Conflict • How to Build a Shared Financial Vision That Supports Your Relationship • Why Understanding Each Other’s Money Psychology Creates Trust and Intimacy • How to Build a “Rich Life” Rooted in Choice, Alignment, and SafetyTo learn more about Ramit Sethi: follow @ramit and visit https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/Want to feel more connected to your partner? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/PORSHOWAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The Real Reason Desire Changes in Long-Term Relationships (and What To Do About It) w/ Emily Nagoski

Sex is never just physical. Our desire, frustrations, and turn-ons are shaped by how we think, how we feel, and how safe we feel—both with our partners and within ourselves. In this episode, Julie and Yue sit down with health educator, researcher, and New York Times bestselling author Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. to explore the psychology and neuroscience of sex beyond surface-level conversations. Drawing from her groundbreaking work in Come As You Are, Come Together and Burnout, Emily breaks down why sexual desire isn’t one-size-fits-all and how stress, context, and emotional connection influence our sexual experiences far more than we’re taught to believe.In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why Sexual Desire Looks Different for Everyone • The “Accelerators” and “Brakes” That Shape Arousal • How Stress, Body Image, and Emotional Safety Impact Sex • How to Navigate Mismatched Desire Without Shame or Blame • Why Desire Naturally Ebbs and Flows in Long-Term Relationships • How to Build Sexual Connection During Stressful or Transitional Seasons • Why Sexual Satisfaction Is About Safety and Understanding—Not PerformanceTo learn more about Emily Nagoski: follow @emilynagoski and visit https://www.emilynagoski.com/Want to feel more connected to your partner? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/PORSHOWAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy