87 - Feelings Tool: Interview Your Feelings

Annaliese and Alan explore a practical way to know you're processing your feelings better by “interviewing” your feelings so you can understand what they’re telling you. Being with your feelings this way helps you engage without as much overwhelm or avoidance. Annaliese talks you through how you can approach your feelings with curiosity and intentional steps, making it easier to process them in a healthy, constructive way.

You’ll Hear About:

• How to process feelings as an action step – Get to the root message behind your emotions instead of reacting or shutting them down.
• Noticing your personal experience with emotions – What makes it hard to fully hear what your feelings are telling you? Learn to trust that there’s more information beneath the surface by asking Why? or What? questions instead of rushing to conclusions.
• Approaching emotions with curiosity – If your emotions were the expert, how would you listen to them differently? Notice any obstacles (impatience, defensiveness, avoidance) and remind yourself that feeling your emotions isn’t a threat—it’s information.

Your Free Coaching Call:

Curious how life coaching can help you make the changes you want in your normal? Bring your situation and your questions or desires to your own FREE 1-hour Discovery Chat with Annaliese at www.linktree.com/coachannaliese.

How to Practice Interviewing Your Feelings:

1. Name the feeling you’re in.
2. Ask it, “What are you showing me/telling me?” (Pause for 1-3 minutes to listen—resist the urge to analyze or evaluate yet.)
3. Identify 1-2 root reasons that stand out and start asking “Why?”
   • Why do I think that makes me angry?
   • What about that would make me angry?
4. No judging, just receiving. You’re simply gathering information about what you’re experiencing.

Your emotions hold valuable insight— Tune in to this episode to learn how to truly listen to them.