Some of the relationships we choose to have with groups and individuals who are not our biological kin can rival those we have with our families of origin. For many of us, the connections we have to these families of choice may even be the stronger of the two. What makes us family? More specifically, what is it about these voluntary relationships that fulfills that part of us that needs kinship and connectedness? Advice from the Buddha and other spiritual leaders, UU principles, and personal experience will provide a framework for trying to find an answer.