Forgiveness is not easy. If it were, our relationships would be a lot less stressful. It's hard not to hold a grudge and grow bitter when we've been hurt so deeply. We can be tempted to carry a "you owe me" mentality and constantly be looking to avenge how we've been wronged. We end up suffering not only because of the wrongdoing but also because of the loss of a relationship. Avoiding this requires selflessness and a greater desire for the other person's well-being than for our own vengeance.