In this episode we discuss why the “happiness” movement has done us a disservice and sometimes makes things worse, how perfectionism creates an illusion of control and distorts your reality, how to become aware of the critical inner voice at the root of your pain and unhealthy habits, the incredible power of self compassion, and much more with Megan Bruneau.
Megan Bruneau is a psychotherapist, wellness coach, writer, podcast host and creator of oneshrinksperspective.com After years of perfectionism-fueled depression, anxiety, and eating disorders, she discovered how to like herself, take risks, and find success without beating herself up to get there.
Why Megan advocates a holistic approach to mental health
Why the “happiness” movement has done us a disservice and sometimes makes things worse
How to become aware of the critical inner voice at the roof of your pain and unhealthy habits
What your “secondary emotions" are and why its so important to pay close attention to them
How you internalize self judgement from your childhood experiences
You can have expectations about mood not just performance and that can create suffering
The importance of giving yourself permission to feel feelings even when they are uncomfortable
What your physiological symptoms look like when you experience a fight or flight response
How to build tolerance and grow your “emotional muscle”
The tools you can use (with a concrete example) to stop a downward spiral of anxiety
Things you might do that actually make a negative emotional response worse
The importance of making space for difficult feelings ( through mindfulness )
How to have deep self compassion and treat yourself with kindness
What exactly to say to yourself when you’re dealing with difficult emotions
Why you should treat yourself like a dear friend who is suffering
How the “self esteem” movement screwed you up and created many of your emotional challenges
What happens when your self worth is dependent on being better than other people
How Megan defines perfectionism (and why you might be a perfectionist without even realizing it)
The critical importance of self compassion and how you can practice it
The importance of understanding the concept of "common humanity"
We define mindfulness and its core components, and discuss how to practice it
Why painful feelings don't make you broken, but are a natural part of the human experience
The huge downsides of having your self worth tied to your achievements
Why your fear of difficult and uncomfortable emotions is the roof of your suffering
The exact internal dialogue you should use if you constantly put too much pressure on yourself
The massive danger of “globalizing” negative experiences
Why giving up high expectations actually enhances your performance
Why you should change for your focus from being productive to focusing on what’s meaningful
How you can “become friends” with difficult emotions
And MUCH more!
If you are frustrated, suffering, or struggling with uncomfortable emotions, listen to this episode!