In this episode we explore rejection in depth. We talk about the incredible power of rejection, go deep into rejection therapy, look at the incredible results created by seeking out rejection and living beyond your comfort zone, talk about the magic of asking why, hear a few incredible stories from 100 days of rejection, and much more with our guest Jia Jiang.
Jia Jiang is the founder 100 Days of Rejection and the author of Rejection Proof. In an effort to overcome his fear of rejection Jia spent 100 Days forcing himself into situation after situation where rejection was almost guaranteedJia has been featured on the TED Stage, Forbes, Business Insider, and much more.
Jia’s personal relationship with rejection
The misalignment between wanting to achieve and being afraid of rejection
The only way to overcome your fear is to embrace it and meet it head on
How to become a badass and become fearless
Saying no with grace - how to say no with grace
Show people alternatives
Give them something else / help them to get a yes in some way
"Everything amazing and beautiful happens outside your comfort zone"
The amazing power of forcing yourself to constantly challenge and operate outside your comfort zone
The importance of understanding the vast majority will stay say no to you and why that doesn’t matter
It doesn’t matter when you get rejected
The few people that say yes make a huge impact - a real breakthrough
"How many yesses have I missed in my life?”
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take
It’s not about getting a yes - it’s about EXPLORING and CREATING SOMETHING
The worst thing that can happen is you saying no to yourself
It’s about having fun and challenging yourself
Jia’s advice for someone who is afraid to take the first step
How to take the first step and overcome the inertia of facing your first rejection
Start small, just a little bit outside of your comfort zone, and grow
How you can even blend rejection therapy into your work and your career as well
If you ask enough, there is no request that will get rejected by everyone
What to do if you feel like you’re bothering people when you ask them for something
Be curious, don’t make your goal to get a yes - make your goal to ask 10 people
Turning no into yes, and the magic of asking “why”
Ask people why they said no to you - find out what the reason is
What Jia learned from asking a stranger to plant a flower in his back yard
The power of doubt and empathy
Humor and positivity - don't take yourself too seriously
Give a stranger a high five!
We go through a bunch of rapid rejection techniques you can use right now
You can do rejection therapy for FUN - or you can align it with you goals!
Embrace rejection - rejection means something GOOD not something BAD
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re wrong - the stronger the rejcetion, the stronger your connection with people on the other side
The flip side of rejection is the power of people who are part fo your tribe
Jia’s Life Mission to the movement of rejection therapy