In this episode we discuss one of the most important evidence based psychology principles that make people successful - self awareness. We look at the difference between people who succeed and those who plateau. We talk about why self awareness is the meta-skill of the 21st century and the foundational skill required to succeed in anything, and we examine conclusions form over 800 scientific studies about self awareness with our guest Dr. Tasha Eurich.
Dr. Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and principal of The Eurich Group. She received her Ph.D in Industrial-Organizational Psychology from Colorado State University and a BA in Theatre and Psychology. She is the New York Times Bestselling author of Bankable Leadership and INSIGHT. Her TED talk has been viewed over one million times and her work has been featured in Business Insider, Forbes, The New York Times and many more!
How Tasha uses evidence based psychology principles to make people more succesful
The difference between people who plateau and people who meet and defeat challenge head on
Self awareness “the meta skill of the 21st century"
What does the data show is linked to high self awareness?
Self awareness is foundational to all skills required to succeed
What does the Science say about Self Awareness?
Self aware people are:
Have better relationships
More effective leaders
Run more profitable companies
Self awareness sets the UPPER LIMIT for the skills you need to be successful in the world today
"The secret weapon of the 21st century”
95% people of people think that they are self aware but only 10-15% actually are
On a good day 80% of people are lying to themselves about lying to themselves
Conclusions from reviewing over 800 scientific studies to figure out WHAT self awareness was
The 2 broad categories of self awareness - the ability to see yourself cleary
Internal Self Awareness (introspective people)
External Self Awareness (pleasers)
Those 2 types of self knowledge are completely unrelated
Self knowledge underpins any other skill
Self awareness is an “infinitely learnable skill”
Research conclusions from people who began with a lack of self awareness, but then developed self awareness
There are no demographic commonalities between self awareness
The 3 categories of Self Awareness Unicorns
Being in a new role / new set of rules
Earthquake events - usually negative - that are so devastating that they either cause is to bury our heads in the sand, or they become a catalyst for self awareness
The MOST LIKELY - everyday insights
You have a tremendous amount of opportunities within your daily life to improve your self awareness
The barriers to self awareness are myriad
Internal wiring of human beings - change the way you introspect
The power of substituting the word WHY for the word WHAT
The world we live in today - social media, reality TV, the “cult of self”
The cult of the self - and how our culture damages self awareness
The challenges of excavating our subconscious / unconscious mind
Moving forward with purpose, logic, and curiosity
Too much Introspection can make you anxious and depressed
To gain insight, focus on moving FORWARD
Do your introspective practices serve you?
Tasha’s training regimen to start to develop self awareness
Tools for improving your internal and external self awareness
The power of "The Daily Check-In”
What went well today?
What didn’t go well?
What can I do to be smarter tomorrow?
How you can use a “dinner of truth” to ask “What do I do that’s most annoying to you?”
Dont’ defend, explain, disagree, just LISTEN
The truth about feedback - you don't have to listen to or act on feedback from anyone
How to become aware of your true strengths and gifts - ask your close friends
WHY are you friends with me?
Most self awareness unicorns rely on a handful of KEY people to provide them with feedback
Someone has to truly have your back and want you to be truly successful
They have to be willing to tell you the good, the bad, and the ugly
The power of “loving critics”
Our strenghts - seem obvious to us which makes it hard for us to see them
You must be very strategic and very focused on WHO you get feedback from
Self awareness unicorns don’t rely on other people to approach them with feedback. They never assumed that people would tell them ANYTHING - they took it on themselves to get regular feedback on their own terms
You need feedback from multiple sources to get a clear picture
The easiest, highest payoff activity to get initial self awareness