l Just like protecting our home, the same is true with our personal boundaries. We have power to say no.
l You CAN set your own boundaries. Boundaries don’t separate you from life; in fact they enrich it. Boundaries give you the freedom to become the person you desire to be.
l If you desire to be in charge of your own destiny, you have to learn how to speak up and tell others what is acceptable and what is unacceptable to you.
l The first thing you need to do is make some decisions about you and your boundaries. Decision 1: Decide what you want and don’t want from other people. Decision 2: Decide to enlarge your boundaries.
l 4 steps to enforcing boundaries in your life. Step 1: Have conversations. Step 2: Tell people what you want and don’t want, and how you feel. Step 3: If you do not see anything change, give a warning. Step 4: If after all this it still remains the same, distance yourself.
l You are not here to live up to the expectations of others, and neither are they here to live up to yours. Use assertiveness in balance or seek the the middle path.
l The purpose of setting boundaries is not to be separated from others, but to gain the freedom and strength to live your life to its full potential. It is only after we learn how to protect, honour, and love ourselves that we are able to do the same for others.
l Join me again next week when we continue the conversation by taking a look at saying Yes and No appropriately.