Safety Tips for Stalking Victims

Stalking is a tactic that abusers often use to control their victims. Being stalked can be terrifying, but there are steps you can take to protect yourself. Let’s hear about some actual cases so we can learn our own tactics - tactics to keep ourselves safe from these creeps. 

 

Welcome to another episode of The Unlovely Truth. I’m your host, private investigator Lori Morrison. Join me for another captivating true crime story, where physical, spiritual, and emotional safety takeaways are waiting for us. If you are listening, I believe you have a unique calling—to become a different kind of PI, not a typical private investigator, but a person of impact!

 

This is Season 4, Episode 41. Our book this week is “Think Like a Stalker and Stop Them” by my friend and fellow private investigator Michael Kenny. He wrote this book to share what he’s learned from years of working with celebrity and non-celebrity stalking victims. He’s going to give us the tools and direction to help ourselves or someone else end the nightmare.

 

Like the song says, breaking up is hard to do. Have you ever had a soon-to-be-ex that just can’t accept that you want nothing more to do with them? That happened to a woman I’ll call Everly.

She had just moved to a new town and was lonely. She decided to use a dating app to find some dates. Soon she met a man who seemed to be every girl’s dream. He was polite, generous, treated her like a queen, and even had a great car. When Everly made the relationship Instagram official, an ex-boyfriend who had been the love of her life reached out. Are you thinking he’s the stalker? Nope! They reconnected, and it was Mr. Car who lost it.

 

Lamentations 3:52-57

 

Those who were my enemies for no reason at all hunted me down as if I were a bird. They tried to end my life by throwing me into a deep pit. They threw stones down at me. The water rose and covered my head. I thought I was going to die. Lord, I called out to you. I called out from the bottom of the pit. I prayed, “Please don’t close your ears to my cry for help.” And you heard my appeal. You came near when I called out to you. You said, “Do not be afraid.”

 

The Old Testament prophet Jeremiah is thought to be the author of Lamentations, and he was writing about the fall of Jerusalem to Babylon and sharing his deep despair over the evil in the world that comes when people reject God. Lamenting in the biblical sense is more than just expressing sorrow. It’s also a way to process sorrow and confusion. But this chapter of Lamentation is also full of hope! 

 

Even when we are being pursued and hunted down, when we call out to God, He will remind us that we don’t need to be afraid. And that’s something I hope this episode has also done. If you are being stalked, please know that there is hope. There are people like Mike Kenney who are providing resources to give you comfort and practical assistance. 

 

I’ve put links in the show notes to Mike’s book, how you can contact Mike, and other resources for victims of stalking. I hope that not only will you check them out, you’ll share them. It’s a tough topic, but one we need to talk more about. Hard conversations lead to healthy outcomes. 

Let me know what you think! Send me an email a lori@theunlovelytruth.com or message me on social media. I love it when people are willing to have those hard, but impactful conversations!

 

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Other episodes on Domestic Violence and Stalking: Domestic Violence Statistics Don’t Lie: Meet the Man Trying to Change Them, Domestic Violence: There is Help Available, Whisper of Fear: The True Story of the Prosecutor Who Stalks the Stalkers

 

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Need Help? Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) to reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline

Victimsofcrime.org has a Stalking Resource Center. You can call them at  855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846)

Want to be safer? Grab a copy of my books, How To Kick Fear to the Curb and In God We Trust, Everyone Else Gets a Background Check

And be on the lookout next month for my guide to safer churches, "Reclaiming Sanctuary: Enhancing Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Safety in Our Churches".