Maria Belanic, a Grief counsellor worth listening to

Maria Belanic is an educator and counsellor for grief; having had to deal with grief themselves, they come at the solution from a personal perspective.

Sharing from a personal loss of her son Stefan, Maria shares with us, that its not always easy to take advice from people who care, but don't know what they are talking about.

Many people suggest you act as though they never existed so that you can move on, but in many cases, this can be the worst advice.

Dealing with Grief can seem like we are meant to forget and move on. But the truth, as far as Maria understood it, one needs to never forget their loved one, but to celebrate that person in a healthy response.

Dealing with grief and denying your lost loved one is like 'holding your breath'.

But holding one's breath is not a healthy option.

Maria suggests a better way to deal with grief.

Most spiritual traditions promote a month's mind, where we allow ourselves to grieve.

Witnessing is allowing people who are grieving to express how they really feel.

Maria promotes witnessing , to create a safe place for the griever to express their grief and sorrow.

So many of us literally    'hold our breath'   when it comes to grief.

It's ok to not me ok.

No judgement, no timeline.

Be aware that your state of Grief will be manifesting in your physical, mental and emotional well-being.

The C.A.R.E solution:

Compassion;  be ok with where you are today, you don't compare your grief with others, your timeline is  perfect for you.

Acknowledge: without judgement, be aware of your thoughts and feelings,

 Releasing: let go of all the 'if's' and 'should have's'

Exhale: be open to letting go,  let go of Loss & Love in the same breath.

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