The Foundation: Surrender vs Action | The Let Them Theory Recovery Course Module 1

You got sober… so why are you still exhausted?

If you’ve ever felt worn out trying to manage people’s moods, fix family dynamics, control how you’re perceived, or hold everything together just to stay sober — this video is for you.

In Module 1: The Foundation, we unpack a hidden relapse trigger most people never talk about: control. Not substances. Control. This is the moment where recovery shifts from white-knuckling to actually building something sustainable.

In this video, I break down:

Why putting down the substance is only halftime

How control disguises itself as “responsibility” in recovery

Why trying to manage people creates stress, resentment, and relapse risk

How Let Them and Let Me work together as surrender + action

A simple “brake pedal” tool you can use when your chest tightens and your mind spirals

💭 Real question: What would your life look like if you stopped managing everyone else’s reactions to your recovery?

This video is part of the FREE Let Them Theory Course inside the Sober Not Boring App, where you’ll get:

The full Module 1 handout and workbook Real recovery scenarios you can actually use

Discussion spaces to process this with others in recovery

All modules unlocked at no cost

📲 Download the Sober Not Boring App and enroll in the full course for FREE.

This is recovery for real life — not just meetings.

👇 Jump into the comments: Where do you notice control showing up in your recovery right now?

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