Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey .
Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey .
This episode explores the difference between awareness and real change, healing alone versus healing in relationships, and how avoidance can masquerade as self-work. You’ll learn what “being ready to date” actually looks like, how to stop hiding behind healing, and how to build self-trust by responding differently when you’re triggered. If you struggle with anxious attachment, dating anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck despite therapy and self-work, this conversation will reframe how you approach dating, growth, and emotional safety moving forward.
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Chapters
00:00 Do You Need to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship?
01:45 Why Healing Feels Like It Disappears When You Start Dating
04:10 The Myth of Being “Healed Enough”
07:00 Healing Alone vs Healing in Relationships
10:10 Why Feeling Fine When Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Ready
13:15 Awareness vs Real Change in Dating Patterns
16:05 When “Working on Yourself” Is Actually Avoidance
19:05 What Being Ready to Date Really Means
22:10 Why Triggers Are Information, Not Failure
25:00 How Secure Relationships Are Actually Built
28:00 How to Build Self-Trust While Dating
31:10 Final Takeaway: You’re Not Broken, You’re Human
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