What if sobriety was just the beginning, not the destination? In this episode, Anna Donaghey sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Sarah Michaud, who draws on over 40 years of recovery and professional experience to explore the deep link between codependency, control, and unfulfilled needs. While getting sober is a huge step, Sarah reveals why the work often starts after the drinking stops as we swap one “fix” for another: relationships, work, food, or anything to soothe an uneasy mind.Together, they explore where codependency beg...
What if sobriety was just the beginning, not the destination? In this episode, Anna Donaghey sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Sarah Michaud, who draws on over 40 years of recovery and professional experience to explore the deep link between codependency, control, and unfulfilled needs. While getting sober is a huge step, Sarah reveals why the work often starts after the drinking stops as we swap one “fix” for another: relationships, work, food, or anything to soothe an uneasy mind.
Together, they explore where codependency begins, how it shows up in everyday choices (from dinner to major life patterns), and why true freedom starts with honesty, first with yourself, then with others. If you find yourself always looking outside for relief or suspect that “people pleasing” is costing you your peace, this episode offers validation, hope, and practical first steps toward a healthier relationship with yourself.
Here are the Highlights:
00:00 Intro: Recovery is about more than drinking
00:51 Meet Dr. Sarah Michaud: psychologist, author, and 42 years sober
03:20 Getting sober didn’t fix everything; the real work starts after alcohol
06:01 The cycle, looking for the next relationship, job, or fix
12:05 What is codependency? Explained simply, and why it matters
13:33 A brief history: codependency in addiction recovery
14:23 The inability to be yourself out of fear of others’ reactions
21:01 How unmet needs drive both drinking and codependency
22:30 Childhood patterns, why we bring old survival tactics into adulthood
24:07 Why many people swap addictions after sobriety
33:37 How community and reality checks break denial
35:00 Compassion is essential, but so is responsibility for your experience
50:17 You can know the truth and still take your time deciding what to do
52:54 “I am responsible for my thoughts, feelings, and behaviours”
54:42 Start by letting go of one thing you do for others
56:58 Don’t scroll past self-recognition; this is where the work starts.
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About the host Anna:
Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.
Connect with Anna:
Website: thebigdrinkrethink.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonaghey
Instagram: instagram.com/bigdrinkrethink
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About Dr. Sarah Michaud:
Dr. Sarah Michaud is a clinical psychologist who has worked in the field of addiction and co-dependency for over 30 years. She is also the author of One psychologist's recovery from co-dependency and addiction: A memoir and manual for freedom.
She has been sober for over 40 years and brings her humour, directness, compassion and insight to support folks in recovery. She is also the cohost of a youtube channel called Leaving Crazytown with her best bud Finn where they talk all things recovery and have lots of laughs.
Connect with Sarah:
Website: https://drsarahmichaud.com/
