249: When Teasing Turns Toxic, What’s a Parent to Do?

Middle school can be rough—emotionally, socially, and developmentally. When teasing crosses the line into cruelty, it usually puts a dent in kids’ confidence and sense of belonging. In this episode, Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the complicated social dynamics of middle school, explain why meanness can become a source of power, and why empathy can be in short supply.

Drawing from years of clinical experience, Dr. Lisa explains how bullying emerges, why even “good kids” sometimes join in, and what parents can do when their child is being targeted — or doing the targeting.

💡 YOU’LL LEARN:

- Why middle school social insecurities can bring out the worst in kids

- How and why boys weaponize words like “gay,” even in progressive communities

- When (and how) to approach the school — and why restraint can sometimes help

- How to support your child with empathy and validation, without rushing to “fix” it

This episode will help you navigate one of parenting’s hardest moments–knowing that your child has been hurt by peers–with compassion and clarity.

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