EP 35: You’re the Only Single Person at the Holiday Party (Now What?): How to Own the Holidays Single

The holidays can bring up complicated feelings when you're single—but what if you stopped treating this season like something to survive and started owning it instead? In this solo episode, Madden gets raw and honest about navigating holiday gatherings without a partner, the unexpected clarity that can come from seasonal reflection, and why your relationship status has nothing to do with how fulfilled your life actually is.

If you've ever felt the weight of being the only single person at a party, fielded awkward questions from well-meaning relatives, or caught yourself wishing for a plus-one—this episode is for you. Madden shares personal stories from recent holiday experiences and offers practical language for handling those inevitable "so, are you seeing anyone?" conversations with grace and confidence.

This isn't about pretending you're fine when you're not. It's about understanding that you can simultaneously enjoy your life AND desire partnership. Both things can be true at once. And more importantly, your confidence doesn't come from having someone by your side—it comes from choosing yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:

• Navigating holiday gatherings as a single person
• Finding clarity about what you want in relationships
• Handling intrusive questions from family and friends
• Understanding that fulfillment and desire for partnership can coexist
• Breaking out of hibernation mode during winter
• Building confidence through choosing yourself
• Emotional maturity and sitting with uncomfortable feelings
• The difference between surviving and owning the holiday season

"Your relationship status—whether you're single, you're dating, or the state of your current relationship—that is not the most important and most interesting thing about you. It never was. It never will be unless you're the one deciding that. You are so much more than whether or not you have a partner."

- Madden Zappa

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