New Bedtime Boundaries, Holiday Grief, and Healing While Co-Parenting

This episode is a mix of real talk, healing energy, and gentle chaos. I’m opening up about a big bedtime shift that’s actually helping my anxiety and sleep - no screens in bed. My phone’s across the room now, and suddenly I’m… journaling? Reflecting? Pulling tarot cards?? Who even am I. Spoiler: I like her.

But the biggest shift? Prepping for 9 days without my kids while they travel overseas with their dad - over Thanksgiving. It’s the longest we’ve ever been apart, and it’s stirring up big emotions: grief, co-parenting anxiety, and solo holiday dread. But instead of spiraling, I’m finding ways to turn pain into power.

If you’re in a life transition, facing a solo holiday, or just navigating a hard co-parenting moment, this one’s for you.

🔑 In this episode, I share:

• The bedtime boundary that’s saving my sleep and mental health
• Why journaling is suddenly working (for real this time)
• How I’m prepping for a kid-free Thanksgiving (without losing it)
• My gratitude list ritual for reframing grief and loneliness
• What it means to choose healing over hurting, even when it’s hard

🎙️ This podcast is for you if you're:

• A millennial figuring out life in real time
• A co-parent managing complex emotions
• Healing through grief, transitions, or just… being alive
• Craving relatable, vulnerable, and sometimes hilarious conversations

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Thanks for being here. If you’re walking through something tough, too, I see you. And I choose to believe, this might be the fire that sets us free. ✨

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