"The most healing thing for me now has been the support of other adoptees." -- Dave Sanchez-Brown Read the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JJD8EF1R7VJ6J0V5GXRWXJY4 =============== EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Dave Sanchez-Brown, an adoptee who has bravely navigated the complexities of adoption, mental health struggles, and addiction. Dave shared his adoption story, which took a significant turn ...
"The most healing thing for me now has been the support of other adoptees." -- Dave Sanchez-Brown
Read the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JJD8EF1R7VJ6J0V5GXRWXJY4
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EPISODE SUMMARY:
In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Dave Sanchez-Brown, an adoptee who has bravely navigated the complexities of adoption, mental health struggles, and addiction.
Dave shared his adoption story, which took a significant turn after he read Dani Shapiro's memoir Inheritance. Inspired, he decided to take a DNA test, leading him to uncover his biological family and the trauma associated with his past. He discussed the overwhelming emotions that surfaced as he connected with his roots, including the discovery of a family history marked by addiction.
Throughout our conversation, Dave highlighted the importance of community and peer support in his recovery journey. He emphasized that finding others who share similar experiences has been more therapeutic than traditional therapy. We also touched on the stigma surrounding addiction and mental health, and how society often lacks empathy for those struggling.
As we wrapped up, Dave offered valuable advice for adoptive parents, urging them to be aware of their children's emotional needs and the potential for feelings of alienation. He encouraged parents to seek their own healing to better support their kids.
This episode is a powerful reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of connection in healing. I hope Dave's story inspires listeners to seek support and understanding, whether they are adoptees, adoptive parents, or anyone affected by mental health challenges. Thank you for joining us, and remember to stay safe and connected.
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RESOURCES:
Dave's information:
Other resources mentioned in this episode:
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Dani Shapiro's memoir Inheritance: https://www.amazon.com/Inheritance-Memoir-Genealogy-Paternity-Love/dp/0525434038
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DNA Detectives Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DNADetectives/
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Search Angels: https://www.searchangels.org
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TIME STAMPS
00:00:00 - Introduction to Adoption Healing Quest
00:02:00 - Introducing Dave Sanchez-Brown
00:02:21 - Dave's Adoption Story Begins
00:03:36 - The Impact of DNA Testing
00:04:21 - Finding Biological Family
00:05:59 - Discovering Family History and Addiction
00:07:28 - Understanding Genetic Influences
00:08:09 - Adoptive Family Dynamics
00:09:00 - Childhood Trauma and Coping Mechanisms
00:10:54 - First Suicide Attempt and Hospitalization
00:12:22 - Parental Reactions to Suicidal Behavior
00:13:27 - Surviving Through Activities and Friendships
00:14:50 - Moving to San Francisco and Coming Out
00:16:09 - The AIDS Crisis and Its Impact
00:18:25 - Struggles with Addiction Post-Partner's Death
00:20:01 - Creating a Fictitious Family
00:21:11 - Revisiting Addiction and Recovery
00:22:35 - Turning Point: Moving to New York
00:23:29 - Support from Other Adoptees
00:24:10 - Coming Out of the Adoption Fog
00:25:03 - Intergenerational Trauma and Its Effects
00:26:43 - Reclaiming Identity as the Rebellious Adoptee
00:27:20 - Navigating the Complexities of Adoption
00:29:20 - Advice for Adoptive Parents
00:32:05 - The Importance of Empathy and Support
00:33:35 - Connecting with the Community
00:34:42 - Final Thoughts, Encouragement, and Resources
