Stop people pleasing and keep your boundaries (Episode 322)

Do you want to stop people pleasing, but struggle to keep your boundaries? If you tend to stress or panic the second someone reacts negatively to your boundaries, this episode is for you.

This week in the Let’s Talk About Mental Health podcast, I’m focusing on “the wobble moment” that often comes from boundary pushback. If you know how to say no but struggle with boundary setting when guilt, tension, or persistence shows up, this episode will help you keep your boundaries without drama. 

I’ll break down why people pleasing in relationships often comes from fear of conflict, conflict avoidance, and fear of disappointing people, and how that leads to over-explaining, self-abandonment, and feeling stuck in your own head. You’ll learn practical mental health tips for setting boundaries and holding boundaries in a calmer, clearer way, so you can stop people pleasing and keep your boundaries even when someone doesn’t like it. And if you keep thinking “why can’t I set boundaries?” or you feel you can’t say no because of guilt when saying no, I’ll show you how to be more assertive while still being a decent human being.

👉 Ready to keep your boundaries and back yourself under pressure?  Then let’s talk!

💡 TL;DR: Sick of trying to stop people pleasing and then folding the moment someone pushes back? In this episode I’ll show you how to keep your boundaries without over-explaining, guilt, or drama, so you can back yourself and protect your peace.

Let’s Talk About Mental Health with Jeremy Godwin is all about practical mental health advice for real life; each week I teach you how to improve your mental wellbeing with simple tips that actually work, drawing on my professional expertise as a counsellor as well as my personal experience living with anxiety and depression. Welcome to the conversation!

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⏱️ Chapters/Timestamps:

0:00 Boundaries and mental health

0:32 Sticking to your boundaries

2:44 What does maintaining boundaries mean?

7:11 Why you feel guilty about setting boundaries

12:50 How to keep your boundaries

23:46 Final tips for setting boundaries

📝 Transcript & show notes: https://ltamh.com/?p=19562 

➕ Related episodes:

The power of ‘no’ (Episode 105): https://ltamh.com/?p=4891 

How to say no without feeling guilty (Episode 258): https://ltamh.com/?p=14853 

Setting healthy boundaries (Episode 248): https://ltamh.com/?p=14448 

Discomfort and growth (Episode 239): https://ltamh.com/?p=14013 

Healthier conflict (Episode 309): https://ltamh.com/?p=18771

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