Is My Child A Monster? A Parenting Therapy Podcast
Kids & Family:Parenting
This week we meet Salimah, single mother of three wonderful children, 13-year-old Alani, 7-year-old Rene, and 5-year-old Terrel. Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all, and Leslie’s sessions with Salimah are a perfect example of that. The first of this four-part series focuses on middle child Rene. Salimah needs help figuring out why is Rene destroying her room, and how to handle those big emotions.
TIME STAMPS
6:58 The three states of mind- emotion mind, reasonable mind, wise mind
8:05 The ring of fire as a metaphor when your child is emotionally dysregulated
12:50 Explaining the difference between a trigger vs prompting event
15:50 Power of pause - the gift of the pause
16:55 Re-considering the use of time-out as a form of punishment
20:40 Create a toolbox of alternatives of how to react when your child has the big emotions; how can you connect and at the same time to give her space
23:12 Narrate what you are doing and what you are thinking, as both a model and a strategy in difficult times
25:49 Change your language away from “I’m in combat with my children,” which implies that they are your enemy
27:44 Having children put a mirror to us, and show us the ways we need to grow.
33:00 Rules of the game - share with your children what you are thinking and doing
Show Note Links:
https://childmind.org/article/are-time-outs-harmful-kids/
For a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/ . You can also follow Leslie’s work on Facebook and Instagram. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences.
Leslie-ism: Keep in mind: your words have power and you can choose what to say.
Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Mia Warren, AJ Moultrié, Camila Salazar, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O’Reilly. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.
Leigh & Pierre Part 2 of 3: When Your Kid Likes to be in Control
Leigh & Pierre Part 1 of 3: When your Kid Doesn’t Want to Talk
Special Guests Dale and Carrie Rubury: When your Sibling is the “Monster” Child
Molly & Alastair Part 4 of 4: When Everyone in the Family has a little bit of Anxiety
Molly & Alastair Part 3 of 4: When your Co-Parent Steps in to Help
Molly & Alastair Part 2 of 4: When you’re in a Power Struggle with your Kids
Molly & Alastair Part 1 of 4: When your Kids Need Different Kinds of Support
Special Guest Jamilah Lemieux: Deciding to Take your Kid to Therapy
Salimah Part 4 of 4: When Parenting Feels Relentless
Salimah Part 3 of 4: When Your Happy Kid is Mean to You
Salimah Part 2 of 4: When Your Teen Shrugs Their Shoulders
Special Guest Dr. Liz Angoff: Explaining a Diagnosis to Parents and Children
Emilee & David Part 3 of 3: When Your Kid Metaphorically Throws Up On You
Emilee & David Part 2 of 3: When You Have Different Parenting Styles and How to Do Less
Emilee & David Part 1 of 3: When Your Kid Says "I Don’t know"
Trailer for Season 2
Focus On Understanding Your Kid’s Big Reactions With Guest Dale Rubury
Managing Holiday Stress with Michael Ian Black and Martha Hagen-Black
What It’s Like To Be A Guest On Is My Child A Monster?
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