“Killed Them All, Of Course”: The Mind of Robert Durst w/Attorney Kate

Content warning: This episode includes discussion of homicide, dismemberment, and domestic violence. Listener discretion advised. Robert Durst confessed on a hot mic — but the real story is watching a man confabulate in real time, for decades, and nearly get away with it. In the first-ever Murder on the Couch guest episode, Tony is joined by his friend Kate, a civil attorney and lifelong true crime devotee, to break down the case behind HBO's The Jinx. Kate presents the case — the 1982 disappearance of Kathie Durst, the murder of Susan Berman, the Morris Black acquittal that still defies belief — while Tony reacts in real time with the psychology underneath it all: confabulation, childhood adaptations, and what actually happens when someone is finally confronted with a lie they can't tap-dance out of. In this episode, you'll discover: Why memory is "adorable and fallible" — and how the legal system's hierarchy of evidence accounts for exactly that How Durst's defense team built reasonable doubt around an admitted dismemberment (and why the missing evidence mattered more than the conceded facts) The difference between psychopathy and sociopathy — nature vs. nurture, charm vs. rage, and why nonviolent sociopaths walk among us What a masterful cross-examination and an eight-hour couples intensive have in common: staying with someone's discomfort until the adaptation collapses Why breakthroughs so often have a "shelf life" — and what it takes for real change to stick Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has spent decades watching people confabulate, deflect, and defend in real time — just usually not on the witness stand. If you've ever watched someone rewrite reality right in front of you and wondered how they believe their own story, this episode is for you. Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com