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Healing, survival, resilience, and how pleasure heals with Staci HainesEvery once in a while, I have a conversation that brings things into focus. This week's conversation with Staci Haines one of those special experiences.
I've long had Staci's book, "Healing Sex" on my shelf and used it as a resource for healing around sex. But speaking with her was a rare treat.
We talk about trauma and oppression, surviving, and then move into a beautiful exploration of what it means to heal, having compassion for the ways we survived, and developing a practice around resilience and pleasure.
Why is pleasure so important? How can we invite intentional rituals of resilience into our relationships? Why is social action so crucial to our well-being? What do human beings most need to feel their aliveness?
It is so damn good, and I hope you savor it the way I did.
Plus, Patreon supporters, if you support the show at $3/month and above, you score weekly bonus content that you can't find anywhere else. This week, Staci and I continue the conversation and dive into how we can be better partners to survivors of abuse and trauma - we talk about resourcing yourself, avoiding saviorhood, and doing your own healing and boundary work. Check it out at http://patreon.com/sexgetsreal
Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Staci Haines:Staci K. Haines is a co-founder and the Executive Director of generative somatics. She integrates trauma and healing and a systemic analysis of power, into this unique and powerful work. Staci is committed to the interdependence of personal, collective and systemic transformation: “We are shaped by our deeply personal experiences and our social conditions. Through embodied transformation and collective action we can move ourselves, communities and society toward what is life affirming. The focus of gs is to bring the transformative power of somatics to serve social and environmental justice movements.” Staci is also a founder of generationFIVE, which has the mission to end the sexual abuse of children within 5 generations. She is the author of Healing Sex: A Mind Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma (Cleis 1999, 2007).
Be sure to also check out generationFIVE, which seeks to eliminate child sexual abuse in five generations.
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300: Jaclyn Friedman on believing women
299: Leonore Tjia on highly sensitive people, why mental health models are anti-erotic.
298: Discharge, FGM scars, cheating during Alzheimers, & teaching kids pleasure with food
297: Christy Harrison on eating for pleasure, desirability, and being anti-diet, Part 2
296: Christy Harrison on pleasure, happiness, and being anti-diet, Part 1
295: Can we change our sexual preferences? Plus, a lesbian who wants to try sex with men.
294: Making erotic films with Inka Winter
293: Sexual attraction, gay for getting blowjobs, & cheating with a sex worker
292: Sexual assault, oral sex, and regret after a threesome
291: STIs, masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies
290: Wheelchair sex and being scared of sex
289: When the sex stops after you move in together & non-binary pregnancy
288: Squirting and incontinence, men who don't like sex, & large breasts
287: Darcey Steinke on menopause, changing bodies, & a new way forward
286: Exploring bisexuality, life after rape, Hashimoto's & dating
285: Kai Cheng Thom on consent, healing, & pleasure
284: Learning to be vulnerable, is cheating bad, and big penises
283: Healthy relationship behaviors (green flags), community accountability
Sex Gets Real 282: Squirting, fat-friendly therapist, & when a marriage falls apart
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