The Becoming Podcast | Season 7; Episode 4 | Cindy DiTiberio on motherhood, divorce + how psychedelics helped her find her voice

Welcome back to another episode of The Becoming Podcast, all!

I'm delighted to bring you my conversation with writer Cindy DiTiberio today.  I've been following Cindy's work on her Substack, The Mother Lode, for quite a while now, and I know you're going to love our conversation.  So many of my clients and the women I connect with are experiencing – or thinking about – the end of their intimate partnerships, and I think Cindy's wisdom will really resonate with you.  This episode is especially for you if it's your transition into motherhood that has instigated a reckoning in your relationship.

 

Here's some of what we talked about in our conversation:

> How MDMA therapy helped Cindy know that she needed to leave her marriage.

> What so often happens to relationships when a couple has a baby.  We talk about everything from sex to paternity leave to caregiving and the mental load.

> The feeling of being trapped by oppressive systems of capitalism and patriarchy and how heterosexual couples often end up in traditional, gendered roles without ever intending to.  We talk about the role of internalized patriarchy, the devaluing of women's time, and how both Cindy and I (and so many other mothers we know) ended up squeezing our full time work into part time hours so we could also be primary caregivers.

> How personal growth journeys – whether that's into deeper spiritual paths or into a feminist awakening – can cause couples to drift apart.

> How the pandemic awakened our culture to the many ways modern hetero partnership has failed women and mothers.

 

I think you're going to love my conversation with Cindy.  I think it's so relatable for so many of us who are mothering and perhaps grappling with how to navigate our relationships, whether they're ending or evolving.