From Codependency to Self-Love: How to Open Your Heart Without Abandoning Yourself | Recover Your Soul

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What if loving deeply didn’t mean losing yourself?

In this episode, I reflect on self-love through the lens of the Recover Your Soul process and my own journey from codependency, control, and self-sacrifice into something far more grounded and whole.

So many of us learned early on that love meant being good, being helpful, being quiet, being compliant, or being whatever someone else needed us to be. We became experts at caring for everyone else while slowly disconnecting from our own voice, our own body, and our own truth for survival.

True self-love is the courageous act of opening your heart while staying rooted in who you are.

In this conversation, I share about the ways codependency teaches us to abandon ourselves in relationships, why protecting your heart is natural, and how those protectors form. We explore the difference between transactional love and spiritual love, and what it really means to love yourself first without loosing yourself.

We talk about the steel gates around our hearts and how awakening allows us to soften those defenses without collapsing back into old patterns.

Self-love is not about becoming perfect.
It is about becoming present.
It is about remembering your wholeness.

When we stop asking others to

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