381. Are friendships REALLY meant to be inconvenient?

Everyone wants a village? No one wants to be a villager? In a world obsessed with protecting our peace, optimising our time, and cutting off anything that feels draining ... have we accidentally made friendship optional? In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology behind friendship and why the best ones sometimes make you work harder.

We explore:

• The viral idea that “inconvenience is the cost of community”

• The 4 psychological pillars of lasting friendships

• How much time it actually takes to build a close friend

• The rise of therapy-speak and how “boundaries” can sometimes become disguised avoidance

• Why conflict isn’t the end of a friendship

• 6 practical ways to “be a villager”

• When to kick someone out of the village...

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much, giving too much, or slowly drifting from the people you care about, this episode is for you.

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