121 Chap Bettis: Biblical Conflict Resolution Part 2 - The Call to Get the Log Out of Our Own Eye

On this episode of The Disciple-Making Parent podcast, we continue our four-part series on biblical conflict resolution with part two, focusing on the essential practice of examining ourselves before addressing conflicts with others. We explore Jesus' teaching about removing the log from our own eye before pointing out the speck in someone else's eye, and why this principle is foundational to resolving disagreements in a God-honoring way.

We discuss how to conduct an honest self-examination, looking at both our actions and attitudes that may have contributed to conflict. We explore common blind spots like argumentative spirits, passive-aggressive behavior, and the tendency to see ourselves as more righteous than we actually are. We also examine how leaders in particular need to be willing to acknowledge their blind spots and the impact their words and decisions can have on others. In the second half of the episode, we break down Ken Sande's Seven A's of Confession—a practical framework for asking forgiveness in a way that's genuine, specific, and transformative.

We learn the difference between saying "I'm sorry" and truly asking for forgiveness, and why details like addressing everyone involved, avoiding qualifiers like "if" and "but," and accepting consequences matter so much in the reconciliation process. Whether you're navigating conflict in marriage, parenting, church leadership, or the workplace, this episode equips us with biblical tools to own our part, confess well, and move toward genuine restoration. 

Topics Covered in This Week’s Podcast
02:00 Review
04:49 Principle 2: Get the log out of your own eye
09:34 Questions for self-examination
14:43 Examining our own desires
20:37 Applications
25:46 Confession and forgiveness

Resources From This Podcast
Biblical Conflict Resolution Part 1- Introduction and the Call to Glorify God
The Peacemaker, by Ken Sande
Wisdom and Justice vs. Lack of Wisdom and Injustice