Ep73 How Real Relationship Change Actually Works

If your partner keeps promising to change — but nothing actually sticks — this episode is for you.

In this episode, Dr. Dar Hawks breaks down what real change in relationships requires, why effort and love alone aren’t enough, and how to tell whether lasting change is actually possible.

You’ll learn:

• Why change is about capacity, not motivation
• The three conditions required for real, sustainable change
• How unmet relationship needs block follow-through
• Signs change may be possible — and signs it isn’t right now
• Why over-functioning quietly prevents change

This episode will help you stop guessing, stop over-giving, and start seeing your relationship clearly — without pressure or self-betrayal.

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