This Was Always Me

Choosing the ‘Normal’ Life: Al on coming out after marriage, fatherhood & grief

2025-07-21

Al speaks to Rich Clarke about growing up feeling different. Not just because he was gay, but because he was half Chinese in a mostly white school, where he was bullied and made to feel like an outsider.In the shadow of the AIDS crisis, with strict parents and no one to turn to, Al stayed silent. He chose what felt like the “normal” life: marriage, children, and hiding who he really was.It wasn’t until his 40s, after the death of his mum and a mental health crisis, that Al found the courage to come out and begin again.📱 Follow us on Instagra...