How Mom Guilt, Rumination, and “Bob” Are Running Your Life (And What to Do Instead)

In today’s episode,we dive deep into mom guilt and rumination—and how shifting our inner world can completely change how we show up for our families, our partners, and ourselves.
You’ll hear about a big change inside No Guilt Mom (hello, No-Guilt Mom Inner Circle 👋), what it means to be a Lola, and why balance was never the real goal in the first place. From there, we dive deep into the thought patterns that keep so many moms exhausted, overwhelmed, and snapping at the people they love most.
I share personal stories—from a tense moment with my husband, to a painful memory from my teaching career—to show how unchecked guilt and insecurity can twist our communication and steal our peace. We’ll talk about why so much of our stress isn’t about the work or the parenting itself—but about what we tell ourselves about it.
And yes… we’re talking about rumination.
That loop-your-brain-won’t-quit replaying-the-past habit that drains your energy and keeps emotional wounds wide open. I’ll walk you through a surprisingly simple (and slightly funny) tool to interrupt ruminating thoughts—one that’s been helping me calm my nervous system and reclaim my capacity.
In this episode, we cover:
Why balance didn’t work—and what the No-Guilt Mom Inner Circle really stands for
What it means to be a Lola and how the Lotus Framework supports real change
How guilt silently shapes your reactions, relationships, and parenting
Why rumination keeps emotional pain alive (and how to stop it)
The connection between people-pleasing, fear of being “bossy,” and burnout
A practical mental tool to shut down intrusive, looping thoughts
Why working on your thoughts matters more than trying to “fix” your behavior
If you’ve ever thought:
“This is all my fault.”
“I don’t deserve this.”
“I should have handled that better.”
This episode is for you.
💫 Want support without adding more to your plate?
I’m opening up the No Guilt Mom Circle—a simple, once-a-month, one-hour live session designed for moms who feel maxed out but still want space to reflect, dream, and reset. This month, we’re creating vision boards—not for perfection, but for direction.
And if today’s episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.
DM me on Instagram @NoGuiltMom and tell me what landed—or leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help this message reach more moms who need it.

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