When Your Narcissistic Ex Weaponizes Your Children in Their Smear Campaign

Your child comes home from a visit with the other parent guarded. Repeating things they couldn't have come up with on their own. Now they’re looking at you differently. 

That's not just "divorce being hard." That's a smear campaign — and your narcissistic ex has recruited your own children to run it. 

This week, Dr. Josh Davis — neuroscientist, psychologist, and author of The Difference That Makes a Difference — joins Kerry McAvoy to break down exactly how narcissistic exes weaponize children in their smear campaigns, and what you can do to protect your relationship with your kids without playing the narcissist's game. 

In this episode:  

• Why narcissistic exes target children in their smear campaigns and what they're really trying to accomplish  
• The 3 signs your child is being used as a messenger or weapon against you  
• How to respond when your child repeats the narcissist's narrative 
• The one mistake most co-parents make that actually deepens the alienation 

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DR. JOSH DAVIS is a neuroscientist, psychologist, and author of The Difference That Makes a Difference. His work helps parents build stronger connections with their children using tools from Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and neuroscience.

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