The Gospel of Control: Why Your Plans Still Feel Fragile

Today, I want to dive into the nitty-gritty of something I call The Gospel of Control: Why Your Plans Still Feel Fragile. It’s that subtle, sneaky belief that convinces us we can plan our way to peace—but instead, it leaves us feeling tight in the chest, anxious, and perpetually on edge. I’ve been there, thinking that if I just had the perfect plan, everything would fall into place. Here’s the truth: planning itself isn’t wrong, yet when it becomes our crutch, it actually steals our peace. We end up juggling expectations, outcomes, and responsibilities like flaming swords on a unicycle. What I’ve learned—and what I want to share with you—is that real calm comes not from control, but from letting go. By loosening our grip, opening our hands, and trusting beyond our plans, we can reclaim a steady heart and lasting peace.

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In today’s episode, we’re diving into a topic that hits close to home for many of us: the tension between planning and control. You know that feeling—everything seems lined up, your plans are in place, and yet there’s still this tightness in your chest? That’s what I call the gospel of control creeping in. Planning itself isn’t the problem—it’s essential—but when it becomes your lifeline, that’s when peace starts to slip away. We’re exploring how the pressure to manage every outcome, every person, every detail can quietly erode your calm. By the end, my goal is to help you find that balance: to be responsible and intentional, but without sacrificing your mental and emotional well-being. It’s about opening your hands, steadying your heart, and rediscovering true peace.

Takeaways:

1. Planning isn't bad, but when it becomes your savior, your peace gets fragile.
2. If you find yourself constantly anxious, it might be from trying to control everything around you.
3. Real peace comes not from certainty but from surrendering and trusting in God.
4. You can't control everything, so let go of your grip and have open hands with a steady heart.
5. Remember, you're not weak for wanting to control things; it often comes from a place of past pain.
6. Control can lead to exhaustion; instead, focus on doing your best and leaving the rest to God.

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