IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
Kids & Family:Parenting
Comparison Feels Like Not Being Good Enough?
If you worry that you're not good enough, you're probably comparing yourself to someone or something else.
You might be comparing yourself to other parents, to your friends, or maybe even to a mythical version of yourself that doesn't even exist.
The problem with comparison is that it is never accurate and it is often the reason you feel like you're not good enough.
Worry About What Others Think
Another thing that might be making you feel like you're not good enough is worrying about what others think about you.
You Are BETTER Than Good Enough
The other day I was speaking with someone and she told me that she had heard someone say, "You are the perfect parent for your children, and your children are the perfect children for you."
I think she is right on.
You ARE the perfect parent for your teens, in all your imperfection.
And, your teen is the perfect teen for you, in all their imperfection.
Trust that you are actually better than good enough.
You are perfectly matched for your teen, and when you trust this, you will start to see evidence of this all over.
Whether You Are "Good Enough" or Not is Dependent on Your Stories
Henry Ford is famous for saying, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right,”
The same principle is true here. Whether you think you are "better than good enough" or you think you're not good enough – you’re right.
So, you might as well shift your focus to find evidence that you are awesome!
Your brain finds what you look for.
If you think you're not good enough, your brain is going to show you all the things that you think are not good enough about you.
If you think that you are better than good enough, your brain is going to show you all the things that you are doing that are amazing.
You get to choose where you place your attention.
Practice Believing that You are Better than Enough.
You truly are better than simply being good enough.
You are amazing.
You are perfectly imperfect, or imperfectly perfect, either way, you are just the way you are supposed to be.
Does that mean that you have no room for growth?
Of course not. But it does mean that you can stop trying to grow and improve because you think you're not good enough.
Practice appreciating things about yourself.
Seriously, what makes you special and unique?
What gifts do you have that no one else has?
Practice seeing your value.
Take the free Parent Trap quiz
If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .
It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.
By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.
This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.
This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.
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