149: How Mike & Mara Stopped Walking on Eggshells Around Their Highly Sensitive Kid

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Have you ever felt like you have tried everything to end your child's meltdowns, but nothing worked?

They're parents of four, and their highly sensitive eight-year-old son's big feelings had started running the whole household. They'd tried behavior charts, positive reinforcement, consequences, and yelling back louder. Nothing held.

On our first call together, I heard two parents who still loved each other and still loved their kids, but couldn't get to any of it through the noise.

Mara had been listening to the podcast for a while, trying scripts almost verbatim and sending Mike links he couldn't fit together on his own. They were getting glimpses of calm, only to lose it by bedtime. Mike said something that stopped them both cold during our interview: their son isn't going to grow out of this.

In this episode, we talk about what changed when they stopped trying to manage behavior and started doing the deeper work underneath it.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[2:02] The eye-for-an-eye cycle of yelling, threats, and slammed doors

[3:57] Dreading pickup and the isolation of not being able to tell other moms

[9:44] The moment they realized their son wasn't going to grow out of it

[12:27] Becoming sturdy parents and why kids feel it immediately

[14:28] De-shaming bedtime prayers and the language that changes everything

[22:51] From supervising to actually living and enjoying your kids again

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