Listen to this episode if… You're in a relationship or home where you feel unsafe You've left but still don't feel secure You're not ready to leave yet but want to prepare You're supporting someone who may be experiencing abuse You want to understand how to help a friend or loved one stay safe You have a court or mediation event you need to attend with an unsafe ex 📌 Please remember this episo...
Listen to this episode if…
- You're in a relationship or home where you feel unsafe
- You've left but still don't feel secure
- You're not ready to leave yet but want to prepare
- You're supporting someone who may be experiencing abuse
- You want to understand how to help a friend or loved one stay safe
- You have a court or mediation event you need to attend with an unsafe ex
📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.
When things feel uncertain or even unsafe it's not being paranoid to think ahead. It's being prepared.
In this important episode, we break down what a safety plan actually is, why it matters, and how to build one tailored to your situation. Whether you're living with abuse, planning to leave, or simply want to feel more secure going through the Family Court, we talk through the key steps and considerations from protecting your children to securing your documents and digital life.
You'll learn how safety planning can be a quiet, empowering way to take back control and set up the support you need. I also share resources, tools, and who to call if you want help doing it safely and confidentially.
🔑 Episode Timeline: From Fear to Freedom: Creating a Safety Plan Before You Need One
Safety Plans — What They Are & How to Make One
00:00 – Introduction: What is a Safety Plan and Why It Matters
Overview of safety planning and who needs one.
02:06 – Why You Might Need a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence
Signs, risks, and when it's time to prepare.
03:41 – Recognising Coercive Control and Hidden Danger Signals
How emotional and behavioural control can put you at risk.
07:55 – Step‑by‑Step Guide to Creating Your Safety Plan
Essential steps to start planning your safety today.
09:04 – Safety at Home: Preparing for a Potential Escape
Practical tips for making your environment safer.
16:33 – Safety Technology: Real‑Time Tracking and Digital Risk
Understanding digital abuse and how it affects your plan.
16:57 – Important Documents You Should Have Ready
Checklist of documents to keep handy for safety or sudden departure.
17:33 – Leaving Without Explanation: When It's Necessary
How to plan a quiet departure without alerting an abuser.
18:10 – The Power of Code Words and Communication Safety
Using discreet signals to reach out for help.
19:20 – Planning Your Escape Route: Fast and Safe Exits
How to map out the quickest way out when it's unsafe to stay.
20:11 – Handling Vehicle Safety and Transport During Escape
Car strategies and avoiding being blocked in.
23:29 – Keeping Your Pets Safe During an Escape Plan
Options and programs that support pets in family violence situations.
24:22 – Work, Online and Tech Safety Measures
Protecting your devices, social media, and work life from monitoring or abuse.
27:00 – Staying Safe After Leaving a Violent Situation
Changes to routines, communication, and personal security.
27:56 – Legal Steps to Support Your Safety Plan
Protection orders, police involvement, and legal safety mechanisms.
30:58 – Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone — Support Is Available
Encouragement and next steps with reminder resources.
🔗 Links & Resources:
1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service
Daisy App – Connect to Local Services
Technology and Safety Guide
Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in
Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/
Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro
The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/
Episode Links
Who gets the Car in the long and short term https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CmoF5nrBhVfDlJgVyXlGp?si=uXtMvH1dRoG74CSd-7pD9w
Separated under one roof do's and don'ts
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ
Stuck under one roof what are your options
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg
Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw
🚨 Support Services:
Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program
1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)
Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)
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⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning:
This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.
