216: Breaking Free From the ’Good Kid, Bad Kid’ Trap

In this powerful episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith shares an inspiring story from one of her Hive community members, Sandy, who bravely reflected on her old parenting rules and the profound impact they had on her relationship with her daughter. Through honest self-awareness and a shift from rigid control to nurturing connection, Sandy transformed her family dynamic. Lisa walks us through how we, too, can reframe household rules to build trust, invite cooperation, and break intergenerational cycles.

What You'll Learn:

• The Impact of Labels: How “good girl” and “bad girl” labels create lasting identities and affect your child’s self-perception.
• From Control to Connection: Learn practical strategies to shift your parenting from managing behavior to guiding growth.
• Reframing Rules: How to transform household rules from rigid demands to invitations for cooperation and respect.
• The Power of Grace: Why giving yourself grace is crucial as you break old patterns and learn new parenting tools.
• Awareness as a Superpower: The magic that happens when you recognize your own inherited parenting patterns and make intentional changes.
• Actionable Homework: A guided exercise to assess your own parenting rules, identify hidden messages, and reframe them to build connection.