”Selection is Destiny” with the transformational Beth Fisher

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A life can look like momentum from the outside—30 marathons, corporate wins, a bestselling debut, a full speaking calendar—and still be built on choices that didn’t honor the person inside. That clash is where Beth Fisher found her pivot. We sit down with Beth—business coach, speaker, and author—to trace the arc from checklist living to clear-eyed selection, from noisy achievement to calm, durable contentment.

Beth opens up about the experiences that sharpened her discernment: surviving leukemia, navigating divorce, confronting a covert narcissist, and carrying the quiet weight of parenting guilt and empty nest grief. She doesn’t romanticize the pain or rush past it. Instead, she shows how to sit with it, journal through it, and use your body’s signals—sleepless nights, stress, fatigue—as data you can act on. Her central case is bold and simple: selection is destiny. Who you choose as a partner, the leaders you follow, the friends you keep, and the habits you repeat will script your next decade. Choose with non‑negotiables. Leave early when misaligned. Be more interested than interesting. And trust what your gut knows before your head admits it.

We also get inside her creative process—pantser first, architect later—and the story behind her books: Remorseless and the upcoming Selection Process: How to Avoid a Loser Relationship. From there, we widen the lens: stoicism as a daily practice, the power of solitude, and the “goose vs. golden eggs” mindset that turns outcomes into byproducts of strong inputs. When Beth slowed down—coffee under the stars instead of 4 a.m. grind—her work got better, her joy returned, and contentment replaced pressure. She still plays to win (hello, pickleball singles), but she’s done performing for the wrong audience.

If you’ve felt “something’s off” in your relationships, career, or routines, this conversation gives you language, tools, and permission to act. Subscribe for more candid, practical conversations on growth, share this with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a review to tell us the one non‑negotiable you’re choosing next.

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