Listener Favorite: ”I’m almost 40 and still living paycheck to paycheck”

Today, we’re revisiting one of our favorite Money For Couples episodes of the year.

Update: Romy and Travis recently shared an update on YouTube about where they are now. You can watch it here. 

Romy and Travis’s story struck a chord with listeners because it shows what really happens when a couple is earning good money…but operating with completely different expectations, habits, and fears around money.

This episode is a perfect example of how old patterns can quietly shape a relationship—and what it takes to break them. If you missed it the first time, or want a refresher, this is one of the most revealing conversations of the year.

In this episode:

• Why Travis believes he can always “go fishing” to make money

• How their childhoods shaped their attitudes toward money

• The emotional weight Romy carries as the only planner

• The story behind Romy’s secret UK savings

• Their unclear approach to buying property

• How disorganized thinking affects everything from taxes to tipping

• The risks of having no real emergency fund

• Why Travis’s role as the “reassurer” holds them back

• How Ramit helps them redefine generosity

• The first steps toward rebuilding trust

Chapters:

00:00 — “I tapped my card and it said insufficient funds”

09:23 — “I’m living the same financial life as my parents”

18:13 — Breaking down their numbers

38:14 — The weight of taking on the “man’s” role

52:48 — “I’ve been poor before—I’ll be poor again”

1:02:08 — Living on hope, not numbers

1:12:05 — “We’re doing this together”

1:28:56 — Where are they now? Romy & Travis

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