21. Codependency and Autism: 5 Reasons ASD Women May be more Prone to Codependent Patterns - Linking ASD and Codependency - Emotional Detachment as a Tactical Advantage for Family Court, Season 2

Let's continue our deep dive into codependency — why autistic women are particularly vulnerable to codependency, before we think about ways out of codependency.

This entire Season is a journey towards emotional detachment, because detaching is essential not only for healing, but for protecting our children and showing up as the stable, credible parent in family court.

One of the hardest truths I had to learn is that legal advice doesn’t land when emotions are running high. As long as survivors show up dysregulated — in emails, texts, reports, or in court — they continue to generate material that can be used against them, even when their concerns are valid.

Emotional detachment does not mean we stop caring, what it does is it removes the reactivity that you shoot yourself in the foot with, time and time again.

DETACH, BABY, DETACH!!!

Welcome back to Season 2 of Light in the Battle — a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we get clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally harder to mess with.

So in Season 2, I’m taking you step by step through the journey I personally had to walk to detach completely — without detaching from my child’s wellbeing — and to finally be able to show patterns of behavior, in a way family court cannot ignore.

So far this season, we’ve covered:

• Trauma bonding (⁠Episode 15⁠ & ⁠Episode 16⁠)

• PTSD / CPTSD and EMDR (⁠Episodes 17⁠ & ⁠Episode 18)⁠

• Forgiveness — and why it does not mean reconciliation (⁠Episode 19⁠)

• Introducing Codependency - Behaviors and Traits, Episode 20

Now it’s time to talk about codependency IN ASD WOMEN.

• Recap of the 5 traits & behaviors found in codependents

• Recap of the 5 more common traits found in austistic people and how much that looks like codependent traits

• How codependency can develop in autistic women, especially those raised in unstable environments

• Reminders about the concept of self-verification — and how the autistic brain’s need for predictability can keep codependent dynamics in place

• How codependency and narcissistic dynamics reinforce each other without blaming survivors of domestic violence

• Why emotional detachment is key to parallel parenting and raising a non-codependent child

This episode draws in part from:

• Codependent No More, written by Melody Beattie

• An ⁠Interview Of Melody Beattie⁠

• Research on self-verification (SimplyPsychology.org and publicly available resources on Google)

This is Part 2 of the codependency arc. Part 1 has explained the common behaviors & traits of codependent people, and part 3 in Episode 22 will suggest ways to walk the journey of codependency recovery.

In upcoming episodes, we’ll move into gratitude, fellowship & mentorship, surrender, and grief — all essential stages on the path to emotional detachment and freedom.

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Disclaimer: I am not a medical, legal, or mental health professional. This podcast is based on lived experience. Please consult qualified professionals to determine what is appropriate for your situation.

Stay with me through this season. It will get uncomfortable for sure. That's the whole point, I'm trying to help you get out of your own way so you can better hear what your lawyer is saying.

I’m taking you on a journey, from the day you get out of the dysfunctional dynamic, all the way to emotional freedom. Follow the show so you can get all the episodes of Season 2.