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What even is the friendzone, how can a man come to terms with his submissive desires, and questioning desirability politics.This week it's just you and me before we have another tsunami of awesome guests.
First up, Angela wrote in with a question about friendzones. Why are they even a thing? Why did her friend suddenly close her out after she denied his advances without any conversation or warning?
Friendzones are bullshit, so I weigh in on the lies that are "friendzones". Plus, WendyCorduroy's Tumblr post on what the friendzone rhetoric has done to her is powerful stuff. Read it here. And, be sure to check out this thoughtful response to a guy who claimed he was "friendzoned" on Scarleteen.
Looking for a therapist who understands intersectionality and oppression? The Establishment has this great little resource to get you asking potential therapists questions that might reveal whether they're a good fit for you or not.
KinkyCarl wrote in because he wants to explore submission, but has trouble opening up to his wife about the depth of his desires. How can he explore submission for himself and bring her along, too?
DNA wrote in sharing some thoughts about dating people in larger bodies, and that brings me to some thoughts on desirability and ways we can open ourselves to so much more love and friendship.
If you haven't seen Nanette by Hannah Gadsby yet, GET THEE TO NETFLIX and watch it immediately. I share my thoughts about one particular part of her show - the predatory Lolita stories we've ignored and accepted by men in the arts and positions of power. Not. Any. More.
Would you like to support the show? Head to patreon.com/sexgetsreal - you can support for as little as $1. Folks who support at $3 get bonus content every week and if you pledge $5, you get to help me answer listener questions. This week's bonus? A powerful question that cracked a lot of people open as well as some thoughts about what you might be ready to let go of. Check it out.
Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Host Dawn Serra:What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives.
In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence.
It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia.
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299: Leonore Tjia on highly sensitive people, why mental health models are anti-erotic.
298: Discharge, FGM scars, cheating during Alzheimers, & teaching kids pleasure with food
297: Christy Harrison on eating for pleasure, desirability, and being anti-diet, Part 2
296: Christy Harrison on pleasure, happiness, and being anti-diet, Part 1
295: Can we change our sexual preferences? Plus, a lesbian who wants to try sex with men.
294: Making erotic films with Inka Winter
293: Sexual attraction, gay for getting blowjobs, & cheating with a sex worker
292: Sexual assault, oral sex, and regret after a threesome
291: STIs, masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies
290: Wheelchair sex and being scared of sex
289: When the sex stops after you move in together & non-binary pregnancy
288: Squirting and incontinence, men who don't like sex, & large breasts
287: Darcey Steinke on menopause, changing bodies, & a new way forward
286: Exploring bisexuality, life after rape, Hashimoto's & dating
285: Kai Cheng Thom on consent, healing, & pleasure
284: Learning to be vulnerable, is cheating bad, and big penises
283: Healthy relationship behaviors (green flags), community accountability
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