In this deeply human episode, Dr. Mark Bonta sits down with cardiac surgeon, scientist, and writer Dr. Paul Fedak for an honest look at the hidden cost of excellence in medicine. Dr. Fedak shares the story of the injury that forced him out of the operating room and into a profound reckoning with identity, purpose, and the culture of silence that surrounds clinician suffering.Drawing from years as Professor at the University of Calgary and Director of the Libin Cardiovascular Institute, he unpacks why...
In this deeply human episode, Dr. Mark Bonta sits down with cardiac surgeon, scientist, and writer Dr. Paul Fedak for an honest look at the hidden cost of excellence in medicine. Dr. Fedak shares the story of the injury that forced him out of the operating room and into a profound reckoning with identity, purpose, and the culture of silence that surrounds clinician suffering.
Drawing from years as Professor at the University of Calgary and Director of the Libin Cardiovascular Institute, he unpacks why perfectionism is so common in medical training, how surgeons learn to mask pain behind composure, and why emotional detachment has long been mistaken for professionalism. Together they explore the unseen burden clinicians carry, the pressure to perform without pause, and the moments when the mask finally cracks.
Dr. Fedak speaks candidly about ego death, vulnerability, and rebuilding a life after losing the work that once defined him. He describes the colleagues who opened up only after he shared his own story, highlighting how connection and honesty can transform a profession built on quiet endurance.
This episode examines the human side of medicine that rarely makes it into textbooks. Identity. Injury. Recovery. Presence. What it means to care for others while trying to stay whole yourself.
A moving conversation for anyone in healthcare or anyone who has ever struggled with the weight of impossible expectations.
Paul Fedak, MD, PhD's website : paulfedak.com
Episode Takeaways1. Surgeons are trained to push through pain, not acknowledge it.
Medical culture rewards resilience and persistence, but that same conditioning prevents clinicians from recognizing and responding to their own injuries.
2. Perfectionism is wired into medical training.
Traits like list making, obsessive task completion, and performance under observation are common in medicine and often go unexamined despite their psychological cost.
3. The mask of competence becomes automatic.
Clinicians become so skilled at hiding distress that even close colleagues fail to notice warning signs. This silence leaves suffering invisible.
4. Vulnerability creates connection and protects lives.
When Dr. Fedak shared his story, dozens of peers came forward with their own hidden experiences. Openness is not weakness. It is safety.
5. Ergonomic injuries in surgery are far more common than most people realize.
The physical demands of operating are intense, yet surgeons lack the protections that other healthcare workers receive.
6. Leadership shows the true burden physicians carry.
Once in leadership roles, clinicians see the depth of burnout, fear, and quiet endurance happening behind the scenes.
7. Losing the identity of “surgeon” creates an existential crisis.
Stepping out of the operating room forced a complete reevaluation of purpose, ego, and self worth.
8. Technical excellence is not the full measure of a doctor.
Relational skill, empathy, presence, and human connection matter just as much as procedural skill.
9. Medicine needs protected space for reflection.
Without pause and presence, clinicians lose touch with themselves and the people they care for. Healing requires time, community, and grounding.
10. System structures shape clinician wellbeing.
The fee for service model rewards quantity over recovery, creating pressures that make self care feel impossible.
11. Paying clinicians to care for themselves could change outcomes.
If mental health visits, ergonomic care, and recovery time were compensated, more clinicians would seek help early.
Episode Timestamps
07:10 How one surgeon’s work related injury forced a career pivot and a deeper conversation about wellbeing.
08:25 The secret stories colleagues shared only after Paul opened up about his own suffering.
10:30 Independent contractor status and why doctors lack the ergonomic protections nurses receive.
13:00 The unseen emotional toll behind surgical careers and what leadership reveals about clinician suffering.
16:00 Training teaches perseverance, but injury demands honesty. The conflict surgeons are never taught to navigate.
17:28 Medical trainees and perfectionism. Why obsessive traits are six times more common in medicine.
19:10 When the mask becomes permanent. How clinicians hide distress even from each other.
20:00 Two tragic losses and the lessons Paul learned about checking in with colleagues.
22:00 Vulnerability as leadership. Why sharing your story opens the door for others to heal.
28:57 Did speaking out come with professional risks. What changed when Paul stopped protecting his own ego.
31:55 Losing the identity of “surgeon.” The ego death that followed leaving the operating room.
33:40 Beyond technical mastery. Why excellence must include human connection, empathy, and presence.
34:46 How medicine can “create space” for reflection, grounding, and real conversations.
37:50 The hidden financial pressures behind surgical work and how billing shapes clinician behavior.
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