252: How Butterflies Turn Into Walls (and How to Take Them Down)

2026-01-21

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Ever notice how love can feel exciting one moment… and suddenly unsafe the next?A delayed reply. A slight shift in tone. That tight feeling in your chest you can’t logic away.In this episode, we sit with those moments.Not to fix it. Not to label it. But to understand why it shows up.Instead of giving you another “just trust it” pep talk, this conversation explores the quiet patterns that shape how you show up in love, the emotional rules you may be living by without realizing it, and why some connections feel harder than they sh...

Ever notice how love can feel exciting one moment… and suddenly unsafe the next?

A delayed reply. A slight shift in tone. That tight feeling in your chest you can’t logic away.

In this episode, we sit with those moments.

Not to fix it. Not to label it. But to understand why it shows up.

Instead of giving you another “just trust it” pep talk, this conversation explores the quiet patterns that shape how you show up in love, the emotional rules you may be living by without realizing it, and why some connections feel harder than they should… even when nothing is technically wrong.

Episode Resources

✨ Take the Heartbreak Quiz to uncover the pattern quietly influencing how you love

✨ Join the Heal Your Heartbreak Challenge to release the heartbreak influencing your current relationships.

In this episode, we explore:

✨ Why your body reacts before your mind catches up

✨ The difference between intuition and old emotional habits

✨ How past experiences can echo into present relationships

✨ Why closeness can feel confusing instead of comforting

✨ What changes when you stop fighting your reactions and start listening to them

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why does this keep happening?”

This episode won’t rush you to an answer—but it might help you ask a better question.

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