EP 123: Real Confidence- There’s a Voice in Your Head and it’s Stealing Your Confidence

I have one. You have one. And sometimes it’s been there so long you barely notice until one day, one decision or one change shows you just how much it’s been influencing your confidence all along.

For me, it was fat noise. A constant din of “You’re too big. People are judging you. You can’t do this.” And it showed up everywhere: trying on clothes, climbing stairs, getting on planes, even in photos I’d snap for work.

It wasn’t just about how I looked; it was about how I felt in the world, how I carried myself, and how I made decisions. Even though I told myself over and over that “body shape doesn’t matter,” the truth is it did—just not in a way I understood until I lost 40 pounds.

Of course my body changed, but unexpectedly, so did my mental landscape.

Suddenly, I could see how much of my life had been shaped by guilt, shame, and self-blame. Fat noise had been controlling me for decades, whispering that I lacked self-control and that every ache or limitation was my fault.

My fat noise could be your imposter syndrome, achievement anxiety or health worries. But whatever is it is, the lesson is the same and I’ll school you in it in this episode. So hit play and let me be the voice in your ear that cuts through the noise and puts you back in control of your confidence.