177. The Motherhood Wall: Why Modern Moms Feel Set Up to Fail with Dr. Andrea O’Reilly

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Have you ever felt the quiet, constant pressure to be a "good mom"? The one who stays patient, selfless and grateful, even while running on fumes?

In this episode, Whitney connects with Andrea O'Reilly to examine the expectations mothers carry and the invisible systems shaping their lives. From the concept of the "motherhood wall" to the cultural myths we absorb without realizing it, they explore why so many women feel stretched thin, unseen and perpetually behind, even when they are doing more than enough.

Whitney reflects on how easily we internalize this strain as personal failure. Dr. O'Reilly reframes the story: what if the problem is not you, but the structure you are operating inside? Together, they challenge the myth of the endlessly self-sacrificing "Good Mother," unpack the false divide between working mothers and stay-at-home mothers, and argue for choice, agency and dignity without apology.

This conversation moves beyond coping. It offers language, context and a wider lens. You will leave feeling validated, clearer about what you are carrying, and reminded that your exhaustion is not a character flaw. Press play and step into a more truthful, compassionate narrative.

Here's what you can look forward to in this episode:

• What the motherhood wall is and how it impacts women beyond just career conversations

• How cultural norms and systemic structures shape the experience of modern motherhood

• Why so many moms internalize their struggles as personal failure

• The lasting impact of the "Good Mother" myth and unrealistic standards

• The importance of solidarity and community among mothers

• Reclaiming visibility and value for maternal labor and caregiving work

• An introduction to matricentric feminism and what it means for mothers today

Reflection question to ponder: Is this necessary, and is this good for me and my family?

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Connect with Dr. O'Reilly: In (M)other Words: Writings on Mothering and Motherhood, 2009-2024 | York University